我們年代真正的愛(ài).ppt

,我們年代，真正的愛(ài),The love of our times,By:leiyong From:2012 Geological engineering,Love relationships in the modern sense only occur in antiquity outside official society. 現(xiàn)代意義上的愛(ài)情關(guān)系，在古代只是在官方社會(huì)以外才有。,However,it doent have the slightest impact on the passionate love of antient people. Lets appreciate a love letter first.,I have your letter, my adorable lover. It has filled my heart with joy since I left you I have been sad all the time. My only happiness is near you. I go over endlessly in my thought of your kisses, your tears, your delicious jealousy. The charm of my wonderful Josephine kindles a living, blazing fire in-my heart and senses. 我收到了你的信，我崇拜的心上人。你的信使我充滿了歡樂(lè)自從與你分手以后，我一直悶悶不樂(lè)，愁眉不展。我唯一的幸福就是伴隨著你。你的吻給了我無(wú)限的思索和回味，還有你的淚水和甜蜜的嫉妒。我迷人的約瑟芬的魅力像一團(tuán)熾熱的火在心里燃燒。,When shall I be able to pass every minute near you, with nothing to do but to love you and nothing to think of but the pleasure of telling you of it and giving you proof of it? 什么時(shí)候我才能在你身旁度過(guò)每分每秒，除了愛(ài)你什么也不需做；除了向你傾訴我對(duì)你的愛(ài)并向你證明愛(ài)的那種愉快，什么也不用想了?,I loved you some time ago; since then I feel that I love you a thousand times better. Ever since I have known you I adore you more every day. That proves how wrong is that saying of La Bruyere “Love comes all of a sudden. “ 我不敢相信不久前愛(ài)上你，自那以后我感到對(duì)你的愛(ài)更增一千倍。自我與你相識(shí)，我一天比一天更崇拜你。這正好證明了La Bruyere說(shuō)的“愛(ài)，突如其來(lái)“多么不切合實(shí)際。,Ah, let me see some of your faults; be less beautiful, less graceful, less tender, less good. But never be jealous and never shed tears. Your tears send me out of my mind they set my very blood on fire. 哎，讓我看你的一些美中不足吧。再少幾分甜美，再少幾分優(yōu)雅，再少幾分溫柔撫媚，再少幾分姣好吧。但決不要嫉妒，決不要流淚。你的眼淚使我神魂顛倒，你的眼淚使我熱血沸騰。,相信我，我每時(shí)每刻無(wú)不想你，不想你是絕無(wú)可能的。沒(méi)有一絲意念能不順著你的意愿。好好休息，早日康復(fù)?；氐轿业纳磉叄还茉趺凑f(shuō)，在我們謝世之前，我們應(yīng)當(dāng)能說(shuō)：“我們?cè)卸嗌賯€(gè)幸福的日子啊!“千百萬(wàn)次吻，甚至吻你的愛(ài)犬。,Believe me that it is utterly impossible for me to have a single thought that is not yours, a single fancy that is not submissive to your will. Rest well. Restore your health. Come back to me and then at any rate before we die we ought to be able to say: “We were happy for so very many days!“ Millions of kisses even to your dog.,Like any other Frenchman else,Napoleon is very romantic .In fact, This kind of romanticism is everywhere in ancient society,in either China or West world.,For example:,張生與崔鶯鶯,Lets return, however, to the love stories of the ancient people.and go back to our crowded and noisy modern society. Think quietly and deeply whats the love today?,Heres a typical modern marriage scenario: Date someone you happen to know who happens to like you. After a period of time, marry him.Then make a lot of compromises and work really hard to try to make it work. When it doesnt work, get divorced or drift apart living separate lives. 典型的現(xiàn)代婚姻是這樣的：與某個(gè)你恰巧知道他正好也喜歡你的人約會(huì)，約會(huì)一段時(shí)間之后就和他結(jié)婚了，接下來(lái)做出很多妥協(xié)、非常努力地維系婚姻，當(dāng)這些都行不通時(shí)便離婚或彼此疏遠(yuǎn)分居而過(guò)。,Just because of this,the love of today is not as perfect as expected. In many cases,lovers are even involved in fame and wealth strife. In some other cases,boys or girls are only for fun. Personally,I think modern society is not a very ideal breeding ground of cultivating love.,we know from experience that falling in love is easy. But those early tidal waves of emotion are not enough to sustain a lifetime. This can be really confusing, because no other experience is quite as exhilarating as falling in love.,經(jīng)驗(yàn)告訴我們，陷入愛(ài)河很容易，但最初的愛(ài)終不能永遠(yuǎn)澎湃。這的確讓人迷惑因?yàn)闆](méi)有其他經(jīng)歷能像陷入愛(ài)河一般讓人迷醉。,So,how do we pursue our own happiness ?,Always be faithful: always be faithful to one another. When you get married you commit to devoting your life to that person and even when the times are tough, dont believe that the grass is greener.because it isnt. 永遠(yuǎn)忠貞：對(duì)另一半永遠(yuǎn)忠貞。一旦結(jié)婚，你就把生命都交付給那個(gè)人，無(wú)論遇到什么樣困難境地，都不要這山望著那山高，因?yàn)樽詈玫木驮谀闵磉叀?Know how to love:Its easy to fall in love. Even the term fall in love makes it seem like an accident. Oops! Fell in love again!Teenagers can fall in love with passion and abandon. But stay in love for a lifetime? Thats a different matter. 陷入愛(ài)河很容易，“陷入愛(ài)河”（Fall in love）這個(gè)詞句本身也使它顯得就像是一次意外。“哎呀！又陷入愛(ài)河了！” 十幾歲的孩子也會(huì)愛(ài)得激情忘我，愛(ài)得拋下一切。但是永浴愛(ài)河呢？這又是另外一碼事了。 Love is a skill. In fact, Ive come to believe that learning to truly connect with another human being is lifes hardest but most important skill. It requires learning respect, empathy and kindness, for both oneself and others. 愛(ài)是一種技能。實(shí)際上，我慢慢相信學(xué)會(huì)與另一個(gè)人真正地融合在一起是人生當(dāng)中最艱難也是最重要的技能。它需要你學(xué)會(huì)尊重、移情（empathy）和善良，對(duì)自己和對(duì)他人都是如此。,Want the same things out of life:,Human beings are diverse in our values, and that diversity is what makes society interesting. 人們的價(jià)值觀各不相同，而正是這種多樣性讓社會(huì)變得豐富多彩。 But a soulmate shares the same basic values as you. He wants the same things out of life that you do. You love and cherish his friends and family. He loves and cherishes yours. 靈魂伴侶應(yīng)該與你擁有相同的基本價(jià)值觀，他對(duì)生活的期望與你對(duì)生活的期相同。你愛(ài)并珍惜他的朋友和家人，他也如此。,To be true partners,Marriage is nothing like dating. Marriage is more like a mundane small business in which you and he are co-partners and co-employees for life. For your little company to succeed, you must believe in each other, and trust in each others good judgment. You must agree on who does what. You must agree on the direction of your company and the values by which it will run. 婚姻與約會(huì)大不相同。婚姻更像一個(gè)世俗的小企業(yè)，你和你的丈夫既是聯(lián)合雇主又是聯(lián)合雇員。為了讓你們的小企業(yè)獲得成功，你們必須信任彼此，相信對(duì)方擁有良好的判斷力；你們必須確定哪些事情要完成以及由誰(shuí)來(lái)完成；你們必須在企業(yè)的發(fā)展方向和經(jīng)營(yíng)理念上達(dá)成共識(shí)。 Those values will be especially tested if you choose to produce offspring. Because children learn by example, and theyll start off their lives with the emotional skills and values that you model. 如果你們選擇繁衍后代的話，這些理念會(huì)受到特別的考驗(yàn)。因?yàn)楹⒆觽?