奧巴馬給女兒的信

這是一封細(xì)致入微的家書，非常感人，美國(guó)前總統(tǒng)奧巴馬寫給女兒的信親切、自然、樸實(shí)、沒有大話、套話，說的全是家常，每一條建議都可以做得到，每一條都有益，行文的語氣沒有作為父親或者總統(tǒng)的諄諄教導(dǎo)。從"不在外面吃飯"這類小事，到"這個(gè)世界是一個(gè)完全由大家分享的世界，你所做的每件事都會(huì)影響到別人"這類普世價(jià)值觀，奧巴馬都說得貼切，自然，優(yōu)美。希望能夠?qū)δ阌兴砸妗ifeisshort.Itmayfeellikeittakesforeversometimes,buttherealityisthatyoulive,andashorttimelater,youdie.Ithappenssoquickly,manypeopledon’tevenrealizetheyhadalifeuntilit’salreadyover.生命如此短暫。我們有時(shí)候覺得生命怎么也走不完，實(shí)際上，你現(xiàn)在活著，過不了多久，就會(huì)死去。人生真是轉(zhuǎn)眼一瞬間的事情，很多人到臨死前才意識(shí)到這一生已經(jīng)結(jié)束。停止懷疑自己StopDoubtingYourselfIfyoudon'tbelieveinyourself,nobodywill.Successstartsinyourmind,andifallyou’redoingisputtingyourselfdownandpredictingfailure,it’llbecomeaself-fulfillingprophecy.如果你自己都不相信自己，那沒人會(huì)相信你。成功源于你的頭腦，如果你所做的是不斷地看扁自己，預(yù)言著未來的失敗，這就真的會(huì)成為現(xiàn)實(shí)。Insteadofdoubtingyourself,thinkpositively.Notonlywillyoubehappierandmoresuccessful,you’llspreadittoeveryonearoundyou.與其懷疑自己，不如積極的考慮問題。不僅會(huì)讓自己更加開心和成功，你還能夠感染到周圍的人。停止消極StopBeingNegativeNowthatyou'redonedoubtingyourself,stopdoubtingothers.Youdon’tlikewhenpeoplearecriticalofyou,sostopbeingcriticalofothers.Thinkabouthowyoumakeotherpeoplefeel-evenifyouhavegoodintentions,peopledon'tlikehearingnegativity.現(xiàn)在你不要再懷疑自己了，也別再懷疑身邊的人。你不希望被人對(duì)你挑剔，那么也不要再去挑剔身邊的人。想想你給別人帶來的什么樣的感受吧---即使出發(fā)點(diǎn)是好的，別人也不想聽到那么多消極的事情呀。停止拖延StopProcrastinatingIdon'tfeellikeprocrastinatingrightnow-I'lldoittomorrow.Whenyouprocrastinate,youremainstagnant.Whateveryou'reputtingoffdoesn'tgoaway;resolvetheproblem,andmoveon.You'llbemuchhappierinthelongrun.我現(xiàn)在不想做，還是留到明天吧。一旦開始拖延，其實(shí)你已經(jīng)停滯不前了。你拖延的事情不會(huì)自行解決。解決問題，繼續(xù)前行吧。從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)角度來說你會(huì)更加快樂。不要那么刻薄

StopBeingMeanIt'scompletelypossibletosteponsomeone'stoeswithoutmeaningto-ithappensallthetime.There'snoneedtopileonbypurposefullydoingmeanthings,somakeaconsciousefforttostopbeingmean.Ifsomeonewrongsyou,letitgo.There'snoneedtoseekvengeanceunlessthat'sthetypeofpersonyouwanttobe.無意踩到別人的情況真的有可能會(huì)發(fā)生---常常會(huì)發(fā)生。但沒必要去處心積慮地做一些不好的事情，所以要有意識(shí)地讓自己不要那么刻薄。如果有人對(duì)你無理地對(duì)待，隨他們?nèi)ズ昧恕]必要去報(bào)復(fù)，除非你也想成為那一類的人。不要在外吃飯StopEatingOutEatingoutisthebiggestwasteofmoney.Everysooftenit'snicetotreatyourself,buteatingoutforeverymealisthequickestwaytodrainyourbankaccount.Learnhowtocookatleastahandfuloffoodsyouenjoy:It’llsaveyoumoney,keepyouhealthier,andoccasionallyimpresspeople.在外面吃飯真的非常非常的浪費(fèi)錢。也許每次對(duì)于你而言都是一次犒賞，但每頓都在外面吃反而是花光積蓄的最快方式。至少也去學(xué)學(xué)怎么做一些自己喜歡的菜：既能省錢，還能讓你更健康，還會(huì)讓其他人眼前一亮。不要再偷懶StopBeingLazyLazypeopleareannoying-it'slikepullingteethgettingthemtodoanything.IfIcan’tdosomethingassimpleasgoingtoamoviewithyouwithouthavingtofactorinanhourofconvincingyoutogetyourlazybuttoutofbed,I'drathergoalone.Peoplehaveenoughtroublemotivatingthemselves;don'tmakeyourfriendsandfamilywastetheirvaluableenergymotivatingyouaswell.懶人真的很招人煩---得像趕驢磨墨一樣逼著他們做事情。如果我想跟你看一場(chǎng)電影，卻不得不花一個(gè)小時(shí)說服你起床，那我寧愿一個(gè)人去看。給自己動(dòng)力都不是件容易的事情，就別讓朋友和家人浪費(fèi)寶貴的精力再來給你動(dòng)力了吧。停止抱怨StopComplainingWeallhaveproblems,andsometimesweneedtoventtosomeone.That'sacceptable,butpayattentiontohowoftenyou'reventing.我們都有麻煩事，有時(shí)候總想跟別人傾訴。這可以理解，但要注意你吐槽的頻率。Wealllovehelpingourfriendsandfamily,butwhenallyougetfromsomeoneisnegativity,it'seasiertocutthemoffthanhelp,especiallyifthey'realwayscomplainingaboutthesamethings.我們都喜歡幫助朋友和家人，但如果從那個(gè)人身上我只能感知到負(fù)能量，那么還是離得越遠(yuǎn)越好吧，尤其是當(dāng)他們?cè)诜磸?fù)抱怨同一件事的時(shí)候。別再那么自私StopBeingSelfishIfyouonlythinkaboutyourself,you'llsoonfindyourselfbyyourself.Stopforaminuteandthinkabouthowyouractionsaffectotherpeople-didyoutakethelastcupofcoffeefromthebreakroom?Refillit!Doyoulivewithothers?Don'tdrinkoutthemilkcarton.Wesharethisworld100%ofthetime,soeveryactionyoutakecanaffectotherpeople.如果你只考慮你自己，那么很快你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)身邊只剩下你自己。停一分鐘想想你的行為會(huì)給別人帶來什么影響吧---你是不是從休息室拿了最后一杯咖啡？再倒?jié)M呀!你是不是和別人合租？不要喝光所有的牛奶，這個(gè)世界是一個(gè)完全由大家分享的世界，你所做的每件事都會(huì)影響到別人。9別再浪費(fèi)時(shí)間StopWastingTimeI'vesaiditbefore,andI'llsayitagain:timeisthemostvaluableresourcewehave.Don'twasteyourtimeonunproductivethings.雖然之前說過了，但我還想再說一遍：時(shí)間是我們擁有的最寶貴的資源。不要把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在沒有意義的事情上面。Ifyouwanttoexploretheworld'sdarkcorners,that'sgreat.Istillassociatewithpeoplewhohavenot-so-koshercareers,butIdon'thangoutwiththosepeopleattheexpenseofmyownshort-andlong-termgoals.如果你想探索這個(gè)世界的黑暗角落，很好。我也認(rèn)識(shí)一些沒有固定工作的一些自由職業(yè)者，但我不會(huì)以犧牲自己的短期長(zhǎng)期目標(biāo)為代價(jià)和他們出去玩樂。10別再做承諾StopMakingPromisesAlwaysunder-promiseandover-deliver.Whenyoumakeapromise,you'readdingresponsibilitytoyourplatethat,despiteallyourbestintentions,youmaynotbeabletodeliveron.總是做承諾，總是做不到。每次做承諾都是不禁給自己增添了責(zé)任，無論你的出發(fā)點(diǎn)有多好，你都不可能完成所有的部分。Moreoftenthannot,yourpromiseisanabsolute(i.e.“IpromiseI’llalwaysloveyou”)，andonlySithdealinabsolutes.Insteadofmakingapromisewithyourwords,simplybetherewhenpeopleneedyou,andexceedtheirexpectationswithyouractions.大部分時(shí)候，你的承諾都太過絕對(duì)（比如“我發(fā)誓我永遠(yuǎn)愛你”），也只能在絕對(duì)環(huán)境中才能實(shí)現(xiàn)。與其用語言許下承諾，不如在別人需要你的時(shí)候出現(xiàn)，然后用行動(dòng)達(dá)到他們的期望吧。11停止軟弱StopBeingaPushoverWeliveinacapitalisticsocietyinwhicheveryone'stryingtosellussomething.Everyone'slookingoutforthemselvesinonewayoranother,andyouneedtodothesame.Stopputtingyourselfoutbecauseyou'retooshytosayno.我們處于一個(gè)資本主義社會(huì)，每個(gè)人都在試圖向我們推銷些什么。每個(gè)人都在用不同的方式關(guān)注自己，你也要這樣做。別因?yàn)樘π?、不敢說“不”而任人擺布。12不要聽?wèi)押拚叩脑扴topListeningtoHatersNomatterwhatyouwanttodoinlife,there'salwayssomeonearoundtotellyouwhyitcan'tandwon'twork.無論你想干什么，總會(huì)有人告訴你不要這么做，沒有用的。IcancomeupwithmillionsofreasonsTwitterwon'twork,andyetit'soneofthemostpopularsocialmediasitesontheweb.Myopiniondidn'tstopTwitter'ssuccessanymorethanitconvincedKobeBryanttoquittheNBAorJoshHartnetttostopacting.Whywouldyouletsomeone'sopinionstopyou?我可以想出成百萬條推特不實(shí)用的理由，但它還是互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上最流行的社交網(wǎng)站之一。我的想法不會(huì)阻止推特的成功，就像你無法勸科比退出NBA或喬什?哈奈特不要當(dāng)演員了一樣，都毫無意義。那么為什么要讓別人的13停止浪費(fèi)StopBeingWastefulYoudon'tfinishyourmeals,andawayfoodinstead.Youleavethefaucetrunningwhenyoubrushyourteeth,pouringpreciouswaterdownthedrain.Youdriveplacesyoucouldeasilywalk,burninggasoline(anon-renewableresource)。Youarewasteful,anditneedstostop.你飯沒吃完，然后扔掉食物;刷牙的時(shí)候還開著水龍頭，就讓寶貴的水嘩嘩的流走;明明可以走到的地方你偏要開車，燃燒汽油(無法再生資源)。如果你浪費(fèi)了，那就趕緊停止這一惡習(xí)。14不要亂扔垃圾StopLitteringTheonlythingIhatemorethanwastefulpeoplearelitterbugs.Litterbugsaremyleastfavoritebug,andtherearemorethanyou'dthink.Ifyou'veeverthrownevenonepieceofgum,paper,candywrapper,cigarettebutt,etcontheground,you'readisgustinglitterbug,andyoushouldbeashamedofyourself.唯一一個(gè)讓我覺得比浪費(fèi)的人更可惡的就是垃圾蟲。垃圾蟲最讓我厭惡，而且數(shù)量比你想的多很多。如果你曾扔過一塊口香糖、一張紙、糖果包裝、煙蒂，那么你就是惡心的垃圾蟲。你應(yīng)該感到羞愧。Thereareover7billionpeopleintheworld-ifeachpersononlythrowsone“innocent”pieceofgarbageontheground,that's7billionpiecesofgarbagelitteringaworldinwhichnobody“didit”.世界上有超過70億的人---如果每個(gè)人都“無辜的”扔一點(diǎn)垃圾，那么全世界就會(huì)變成70億垃圾場(chǎng)，而找不到“罪魁禍?zhǔn)住薄?5別把每件事太往心里去StopTakingEverythingPersonallyPeoplegetoffendedaboutthestrangestthings.TakeKendrickLamar'snow-infamousverseon“Control”thissummer:hecalledoutalistofadozenrappershethinkshe'sbetterthan(andhe'sright).Theinternetwentcrazy,andrappersallovertheindustryrushedtotheirMicstorecordaresponse.人們會(huì)因?yàn)橐恍┢婀值氖虑楦械奖磺址浮＞湍肒endrickLamar這個(gè)夏天備受爭(zhēng)議的歌曲《Control》為例：他在歌詞中挑釁了一些他認(rèn)為比他弱的說唱歌手(的確是這樣)，一石激起千層浪，整個(gè)說唱界的歌手都蜂擁錄歌作為回?fù)?。Thethingis,allK-Dotsaidishe'sthebestrapper.Everyonetookitpersonally,andthat'sexactlywhathewasgoingfor.Thelessontolearnfromthisisthatnoteverythingisaboutyou,andifyou'reeasilyupset,someonewillusethattotheiradvantage.重點(diǎn)在于，所有的人都認(rèn)為自己是最好的說唱