外研版高中英語新教材必修三Unit1隨身課本-Understandingideas01

DearAgonyAunt,敬重的知心阿姨，I’minatotalmesshere—hopeyoucanhelpmeout!我這兒一團(tuán)糟——期望您能幫幫我！I’m17,andamemberofourschoolbasketballteam.I’mcrazyaboutbasketball,andprettygoodatittoo,whichisprobablywhyIwassomadwhenwelostourlastmatch.Weplayedwell,butIfelttheteamwereletdownbyonemember,ourpointguard.Thepointguardisakeyplayer,butitwaslikehewasn’tevenonthecourt!Disappointedbyhisbehaviour,Isaidallthistomybestfriend.Iwasjustlettingoffsteamreally,becauseIwassoangry,butthenmyfriendwentandtoldeveryoneelsewhatI’dsaid.我今年17歲，是學(xué)?；@球隊(duì)的一員。我酷愛打籃球，而且打得也挺好的，或許正因如此，在我們隊(duì)輸?shù)袅俗罱母傎悤r(shí)我相當(dāng)憤怒。我們打得不錯(cuò)，但我感覺整個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)都被一個(gè)隊(duì)友拖累了，那就是我們的控球后衛(wèi)?？厍蚝笮l(wèi)是隊(duì)里的關(guān)鍵球員，但他就像根本不在場上一樣！我對他的行為感到絕望，我把這些全部告知了我最好的伴侶。我其實(shí)只是發(fā)泄一下怒氣，由于我很生氣，可我的伴侶隨后卻把我的話告知了全部人。Thisissototallyawkward.I’mreallyangrywithmyfriend—whatshouldIsaytohim?AndshouldIsayanythingatalltomyteammate?這太讓人尷尬了。我真的很生我伴侶的氣——我應(yīng)當(dāng)對他說些什么呢？另外，我是否應(yīng)當(dāng)對我的隊(duì)友說點(diǎn)什么？Embarrassedandashamed,Ican’tconcentrateonanything.Pleasehelp!我既尷尬又慚愧，做什么事都無法集中精力。請您幫幫我吧！Ben本Absoluteagony!深陷苦痛！OurAgonyAuntanswersyourquestions.知心阿姨為你答疑解惑DearBen,友愛的本，ThereisanoldAmericansaying,“Looselipssinkships.”Thismeansthatifyouspeaktoomuchaboutsomething,especiallytopeoplewhoyoudon’tknowsowell,it’llcauseallkindsoftrouble.美國有一句老話：“口風(fēng)不緊船艦沉(禍從口出)。”意思是說假如你過多地談?wù)撃臣?，尤其是跟你不太了解的人談，會招來各種麻煩。Thesituationhereissomuchworsebecausethe“l(fā)ooselips”wereyourbestfriend’s.Treatedthisway,you’resuretofeelhurt—weshouldalwaysbeabletotrustthoseclosesttous,andithurtsevenmorewhenwefindwecan’t.現(xiàn)在的狀況更糟糕，由于“口風(fēng)不緊”的人是你最好的伴侶。被這樣對待，你肯定會覺得受到了損害——我們應(yīng)當(dāng)總是能夠信任最親近的人，當(dāng)我們發(fā)覺他們不能信任時(shí)，就更難過了。ButIhavetosaythatit’spartlyyourfault,isn’tit?Youadmitthatyouwere“l(fā)ettingoffsteam”.Itisunderstandableinthatsituation,butweshouldalwaysthinkbeforewespeak.不過我不得不說你也有一部分責(zé)任，不是嗎？你承認(rèn)了你在“宣泄心情”。在當(dāng)時(shí)的狀況下，這是可以理解的，但我們在說話前應(yīng)當(dāng)先想清楚。Here’swhatyouneedtodo.First,apologisetoyourteammate.Ifyoueverwanttowinanymorebasketballgames(andI’msureyoudo!),youneedtoworktogether,andthatmeanscommunicatingwitheachotherclearlyandresolvingconflicts.Sohaveachatwithyourteammate.Tellhimdirectlyandhonestlythatyouweretalkingwithoutthinking.現(xiàn)在你應(yīng)當(dāng)這么做。首先，向你的隊(duì)友賠禮。假如你們想贏得更多的籃球競賽（我確定你們肯定想贏!），你們就必需團(tuán)結(jié)合作，這就意味著你們彼此間必需溝通清楚，解決沖突。所以，找你那位隊(duì)友聊聊吧。坦誠地告知他你當(dāng)時(shí)的話沒有經(jīng)過認(rèn)真考慮。Then,talktoyourfriend.Friendshipshouldbeoneofthegreatestthingsintheworld,butsometimesitcanbedifficult.Again,yourstrategyisclearcommunication.Tellyourfriendyou’reangrywithhimforrepeatingwhatyousaidandmakingthesituationworse,butthatyouwanttomoveon.Approachedinthisway,yourfriendshipwillsoonberepaired.然后，和你的伴侶聊聊吧。友情應(yīng)當(dāng)是世界上最好的事物之一了，但有時(shí)也會有些麻煩。同樣，你的策略是進(jìn)行清楚明確的溝通。告知你的伴侶，他傳話的行為讓狀況更糟糕了，你對此很生氣，但你想讓事情就此過去。通過這種方式處理，你們的友情很快就會修復(fù)。Thirdly,andperhapsmostimportantly,thinkaboutyourownbehaviour.Don’tsaytoomuchwhenyou’reangry!Filledwithanger,youtendtosaywhatevercomestoyourmind.Thisgivespeoplethewrongsignal.Takeadeepbreath,calmdown,andalwaysremember:thinkfirst,speaklater.Ifyoufeeloneofyourteammatesisn’tpullingtheirweight,thenraiseyourconcernsinaprofessionalwaywithyourteamcoach.第三，或許是最重要的一點(diǎn)，反思自己的行為。生氣的時(shí)候別說太多話！滿腔怒火的時(shí)候，你往往想到什么就說什么。這會給別人錯(cuò)誤的信號。深呼吸，冷靜下來，并始終牢記：三思而后行。假如你覺得你的隊(duì)友沒有盡責(zé)，那你要以更專業(yè)