愛情是怎樣的范文英語

愛情是怎樣的范文英語第一篇愛情是怎樣的范文英語第一篇i'dliketotalktodayaboutthetwobiggestsocialtrendsinthecomingcentury,andperhapsinthenext10,000years.butiwanttostartwithmyworkonromanticlove,becausethat'smymostrecentwork.whatiandmycolleaguesdidwasput32people,whoweremadlyinlove,intoafunctionalmribrainscanner.17whoweremadlyinloveandtheirlovewasaccepted;and15whoweremadlyinloveandtheyhadjustbeendumped.andsoiwanttotellyouaboutthatfirst,andthengoonintowhereithinkloveisgoing.

xxxwhat'tistolove?xxxshakespearesaid.ithinkourancestors--ithinkhumanbeingshavebeenwonderingaboutthisquestionsincetheysataroundtheircampfiresorlayandwatchedthestarsamillionyearsago.istartedoutbytryingtofigureoutwhatromanticlovewasbylookingatthelast45yearsofresearchon--justthepsychologicalresearch--andasitturnsout,there'saveryspecificgroupofthingsthathappenwhenyoufallinlove.thefirstthingthathappensiswhaticall--apersonbeginstotakeonwhaticall,xxxspecialmeaning.xxxasatruckdriveroncesaidtome,hesaid,xxxtheworldhadanewcenter,andthatcenterwasmaryanne.xxx

georgebernardshawsaiditalittledifferently.hesaid,xxxloveconsistsofoverestimatingthedifferencesbetweenonewomanandanother.xxxandindeed,that'swhatwedo.(laughter)andthenyoujustfocusonthisperson.youcanlistwhatyoudon'tlikeaboutthem,butthenyousweepthatasideandfocusonwhatyoudo.aschaucersaid,xxxloveisblind.xxx

intryingtounderstandromanticlove,idecidediwouldreadpoetryfromallovertheworld,andijustwanttogiveyouoneveryshortpoemfromeighth-centurychina,becauseit'sanalmostperfectexampleofamanwhoisfocusedtotallyonaparticularwoman.it'salittlebitlikewhenyouaremadlyinlovewithsomebodyandyouwalkintoaparkinglot--theircarisdifferentfromeveryothercarintheparkinglot.theirwineglassatdinnerisdifferentfromeveryotherwineglassatthedinnerparty.andinthiscase,amangothookedonabamboosleepingmat.

anditgoeslikethis.it'sbyaguycalledyuanchen:xxxicannotbeartoputawaythebamboosleepingmat.thenightibroughtyouhome,iwatchedyourollitout.xxxhebecamehookedonasleepingmat,probablybecauseofelevatedactivityofdopamineinhisbrain,justlikewithyouandme.butanyway,notonlydoesthispersontakeonspecialmeaning,youfocusyourattentiononthem.youaggrandizethem.butyouhaveintenseenergy.asonepolynesiansaid,hesaid,xxxifeltlikejumpinginthesky.xxxyou'reupallnight.you'rewalkingtilldawn.youfeelintenseelationwhenthingsaregoingwell;moodswingsintohorribledespairwhenthingsaregoingpoorly.realdependenceonthisperson.asonebusinessmaninnewyorksaidtome,hesaid,xxxanythingsheliked,iliked.xxxsimple.romanticloveisverysimple.

youbecomeextremelysexuallypossessive.youknow,ifyou'rejustsleepingwithsomebodycasually,youdon'treallycareifthey'resleepingwithsomebodyelse.butthemomentyoufallinlove,youbecomeextremelysexuallypossessiveofthem.ithinkthatthatisadarwinian--there'sadarwinianpurposetothis.thewholepointofthisistopulltwopeopletogetherstronglyenoughtobegintorearbabiesasateam.

butthemaincharacteristicsofromanticlovearecraving:anintensecravingtobewithaparticularperson,notjustsexually,butemotionally.you'dmuchrather--itwouldbenicetogotobedwiththem,butyouwantthemtocallyouonthetelephone,toinviteyouout,etc.,totellyouthattheyloveyou.theothermaincharacteristicismotivation.themotorinyourbrainbeginstocrank,andyouwantthisperson.

andlastbutnotleast,itisanobsession.wheniputthesepeopleinthemachine,beforeiputtheminthemrimachine,iwouldaskthemallkindsofquestions.butmymostimportantquestionwasalwaysthesame.itwas:xxxwhatpercentageofthedayandnightdoyouthinkaboutthisperson?xxxandindeed,theywouldsay,xxxallday.allnight.icanneverstopthinkingabouthimorher.xxx

andthen,theverylastquestioniwouldaskthem--iwouldalwayshavetoworkmyselfuptothisquestion,becauseiamnotapsychologist.idon'tworkwithpeopleinanykindoftraumaticsituation.andmyfinalquestionwasalwaysthesame.iwouldsay,xxxwouldyoudieforhimorher?xxxand,indeed,thesepeoplewouldsayxxxyes!xxxasifihadaskedthemtopassthesalt.iwasjuststaggeredbyit.sowescannedtheirbrains,lookingataphotographoftheirsweetheartandlookingataneutralphotograph,withadistractiontaskinbetween.sowecouldlookatthesamebrainwhenitwasinthatheightenedstateandwhenitwasinarestingstate.andwefoundactivityinalotofbrainregions.infact,oneofthemostimportantwasabrainregionthatbecomesactivewhenyoufeeltherushofcocai.andindeed,that'sexactlywhathappens.

ibegantorealizethatromanticloveisnotanemotion.infact,ihadalwaysthoughtitwasaseriesofemotions,fromveryhightoverylow.butactually,it'sadrive.itcomesfromthemotorofthemind,thewantingpartofthemind,thecravingpartofthemind.thekindofmind--partofthemind--whenyou'rereachingforthatpieceofchocolate,whenyouwanttowinthatpromotionatwork.themotorofthebrain.it'sadrive.

andinfact,ithinkit'smorepowerfulthanthesexdrive.youknow,ifyouasksomebodytogotobedwithyou,andtheysay,xxxno,thankyou,xxxyoucertainlydon'tkillyourselforslipintoaclinicaldepression.butcertainly,aroundtheworld,peoplewhoarerejectedinlovewillkillforit.peopleliveforlove.theykillforlove.theydieforlove.theyhavesongs,poems,novels,sculptures,paintings,myths,legends.inover175societies,peoplehavelefttheirevidenceofthispowerfulbrainsystem.ihavecometothinkit'soneofthemostpowerfulbrainsystemsonearthforbothgreatjoyandgreatsorrow.

andi'vealsocometothinkthatit'soneofthreebasicallydifferentbrainsystemsthatevolvedfrommatingandreproduction.oneisthesexdrive:thecravingforsexualgratification..audencalleditanxxxintolerableneuralitch,xxxandindeed,that'swhatitis.itkeepsbotheringyoualittlebit,likebeinghungry.thesecondofthesethreebrainsystemsisromanticlove:thatelation,obsessionofearlylove.andthethirdbrainsystemisattachment:thatsenseofcalmandsecurityyoucanfeelforalong-termpartner.

andithinkthatthesexdriveevolvedtogetyououtthere,lookingforawholerangeofpartners.youknow,youcanfeelitwhenyou'rejustdrivingalonginyourcar.itcanbefocusedonnobody.

ithinkromanticloveevolvedtoenableyoutofocusyourmatingenergyonjustoneindividualatatime,therebyconservingmatingtimeandenergy.andithinkthatattachment,thethirdbrainsystem,evolvedtoenableyoutotoleratethishumanbeing--(laughter)--atleastlongenoughtoraiseachildtogetherasateam.

sowiththatpreamble,iwanttogointodiscussingthetwomostprofoundsocialtrends.oneofthelast10,000yearsandtheother,certainlyofthelast25years,thataregoingtohaveanimpactonthesethreedifferentbrainsystems:lust,romanticloveanddeepattachmenttoapartner.

thefirstiswomenworking,movingintotheworkforce.i'velookedat130societiesthroughthedemographicyearbooksoftheunitednations.andeverywhereintheworld,129outof130ofthem,womenarenotonlymovingintothejobmarket--sometimesvery,veryslowly,buttheyaremovingintothejobmarket--andtheyareveryslowlyclosingthatgapbetweenmenandwomenintermsofeconomicpower,healthandeducation.it'sveryslow.

foreverytrendonthisplanet,there'sacounter-trend.weallknowofthem,butnevertheless--thearabssay,xxxthedogsmaybark,butthecaravanmoveson.xxxand,indeed,thatcaravanismovingon.womenaremovingbackintothejobmarket.andisaybackintothejobmarket,becausethisisnotnew.formillionsofyears,onthegrasslandsofafrica,womencommutedtoworktogathertheirvegetables.theycamehomewith60to80percentoftheeveningmeal.thedoubleincomefamilywasthestandard.andwomenwereregardedasjustaseconomically,sociallyandsexuallypowerfulasmen.inshort,we'rereallymovingforwardtothepast.

then,women'sworstinventionwastheplow.withthebeginningofplowagriculture,men'srolesbecameextremelypowerful.womenlosttheirancientjobsascollectors,butthenwiththeindustrialrevolutionandthepost-industrialrevolutionthey'removingbackintothejobmarket.inshort,theyareacquiringthestatusthattheyhadamillionyearsago,10,000yearsago,100,000yearsago.weareseeingnowoneofthemostremarkabletraditionsinthehistoryofthehumananimal.andit'sgoingtohaveanimpact.

igenerallygiveawholelectureontheimpactofwomenonthebusinesscommunity.i'llonlyjustsayacoupleofthings,andthengoontosexandlove.there'salotofgenderdifferences;anybodywhothinksmenandwomenarealikesimplyneverhadaboyandagirlchild.idon'tknowwhyitisthattheywanttothinkthatmenandwomenarealike.

there'smuchwehaveincommon,butthere'sawholelotthatwedonothaveincommon.weare--inthewordsoftedhughes,xxxithinkthatwewerebuilttobe--we'reliketwofeet.weneedeachothertogetahead.xxxbutwedidnotevolvetohavethesamebrain.

andwe'refindingmoreandmoreandmoregenderdifferencesinthebrain.i'llonlyjustuseacoupleandthenmoveontosexandlove.oneofthemiswomen'sverbalability.womencantalk.

women'sabilitytofindtherightwordrapidly,basicarticulationgoesupinthemiddleofthemenstrualcycle,whenestrogenlevelspeak.butevenatmenstruation,they'rebetterthantheaverageman.womencantalk.they'vebeendoingitforamillionyears;wordswerewomen'stools.theyheldthatbabyinfrontoftheirface,cajolingit,reprimandingit,educatingitwithwords.and,indeed,they'rebecomingaverypowerfulforce.

eveninplaceslikeindiaandjapan,wherewomenarenotmovingrapidlyintotheregularjobmarket,they'removingintojournalism.andithinkthatthetelevisionisliketheglobalcampfire.wesitarounditanditshapesourminds.almostalways,wheni'montv,theproducerswhocallme,whonegotiatewhatwe'regoingtosay,isawoman.infact,solzhenitsynoncesaid,xxxtohaveagreatwriteristohaveanothergovernment.xxx

today54percentofpeoplewhoarewritersinamericaarewomen.it'soneofmany,manycharacteristicsthatwomenhavethattheywillbringintothejobmarket.they'vegotincrediblepeopleskills,negotiatingskills.they'rehighlyimaginative.wenowknowthebraincircuitryofimagination,oflong-termplanning.theytendtobewebthinkers.

becausethefemalepartsofthebrainarebetterconnected,theytendtocollectmorepiecesofdatawhentheythink,putthemintomorecomplexpatterns,seemoreoptionsandoutcomes.theytendtobecontextual,holisticthinkers,whaticallwebthinkers.

mentendto--andtheseareaverages--tendtogetridofwhattheyregardasextraneous,focusonwhattheydo,andmoveinamorestep-by-stepthinkingpattern.they'rebothperfectlygoodwaysofthinking.weneedbothofthemtogetahead.infact,there'smanymoremalegeniusesintheworld.whenthe--andthere'salsomanymoremaleidiotsintheworld.(laughter)whenthemalebrainworkswell,itworksextremelywell.andwhatireallythinkthatwe'redoingis,we'removingtowardsacollaborativesociety,asocietyinwhichthetalentsofbothmenandwomenarebecomingunderstoodandvaluedandemployed.

butinfact,womenmovingintothejobmarketishavingahugeimpactonsexandromanceandfamilylife.foremost,womenarestartingtoexpresstheirsexuality.i'malwaysastonishedwhenpeoplecometomeandsay,xxxwhyisitthatmenaresoadulterous?xxxandisay,xxxwhydoyouthinkmoremenareadulterousthanwomen?xxxxxxoh,well--menaremoreadulterous!xxxandisay,xxxwhodoyouthinkthesemenaresleepingwith?xxxand--basicmath!(laughter)

anyway.inthewesternworld,womenstartsooneratsex,havemorepartners,expresslessremorseforthepartnersthattheydo,marrylater,havefewerchildren,leavebadmarriagesinordertogetgoodones.weareseeingtheriseoffemalesexualexpression.and,indeed,onceagainwe'removingforwardtothekindofsexualexpressionthatweprobablysawonthegrasslandsofafricaamillionyearsago,becausethisisthekindofsexualexpressionthatweseeinhuntingandgatheringsocietiestoday.

we'realsoreturningtoanancientformofmarriageequality.they'renowsayingthatthe21stcenturyisgoingtobethecenturyofwhattheycallthexxxsymmetricalmarriage,xxxorthexxxpuremarriage,xxxorthexxxcompanionatemarriage.xxxthisisamarriagebetweenequals,movingforwardtoapatternthatishighlycompatiblewiththeancienthumanspirit.

we'realsoseeingariseofromanticlove.91percentofamericanwomenand86percentofamericanmenwouldnotmarrysomebodywhohadeverysinglequalitytheywerelookingforinapartner,iftheywerenotinlovewiththatperson.peoplearoundtheworld,inastudyof37societies,wanttobeinlovewiththepersonthattheymarry.indeed,arrangedmarriagesareontheirwayoffthisbraidofhumanlife.

ieventhinkthatmarriagesmightevenbecomemorestablebecauseofthesecondgreatworldtrend.thefirstonebeingwomenmovingintothejobmarket,thesecondonebeingtheagingworldpopulation.they'renowsayingthatinamerica,thatmiddleageshouldberegardedasuptoage85.becauseinthathighestagecategoryof76to85,asmuchas40percentofpeoplehavenothingreallywrongwiththem.sowe'reseeingthere'sarealextensionofmiddleage.

andilooked--foroneofmybooks,ilookedatdivorcedatain58societies.andasitturnsout,theolderyouget,thelesslikelyyouaretodivorce.sothedivorceraterightnowisstableinamerica,andit'sactuallybeginningtodecline.itmaydeclinesomemore.iwouldevensaythatwithviagra,estrogenreplacement,hipreplacementsandtheincrediblyinterestingwomen--womenhaveneverbeenasinterestingastheyarenow.notatanytimeonthisplanethavewomenbeensoeducated,sointeresting,socapable.

andsoihonestlythinkthatiftherereallywaseveratimeinhumanevolutionwhenwehavetheopportunitytomakegoodmarriages,thattimeisnow.however,there'salwayskindsofcomplicationsinthis.inthesethreebrainsystems:lust,romanticloveandattachment--don'talwaysgotogether.theycangotogether,bytheway.that'swhycasualsexisn'tsocasual.withorgasmyougetaspikeofdopamine.dopamine'sassociatedwithromanticlove,andyoucanjustfallinlovewithsomebodywhoyou'rejusthavingcasualsexwith.withorgasm,thenyougetarealrushofoxytocinandvasopressin--thoseareassociatedwithattachment.thisiswhyyoucanfeelsuchasenseofcosmicunionwithsomebodyafteryou'vemadelovetothem.

butthesethreebrainsystems:lust,romanticloveandattachment,aren'talwaysconnectedtoeachother.youcanfeeldeepattachmenttoalong-termpartnerwhileyoufeelintenseromanticloveforsomebodyelse,whileyoufeelthesexdriveforpeopleunrelatedtotheseotherpartners.inshort,we'recapableoflovingmorethanonepersonatatime.infact,youcanlieinbedatnightandswingfromdeepfeelingsofattachmentforonepersontodeepfeelingsofromanticloveforsomebodyelse.it'sasifthere'sacommitteemeetinggoingoninyourheadasyouaretryingtodecidewhattodo.soidon'tthink,honestly,we'reananimalthatwasbuilttobehappy;weareananimalthatwasbuilttoreproduce.ithinkthehappinesswefind,wemake.andithink,however,wecanmakegoodrelationshipswitheachother.

soiwanttoconcludewithtwothings.iwanttoconcludewithaworry--ihaveaworry--andwithawonderfulstory.theworryisaboutantidepressants.over100millionprescriptionsofantidepressantsarewritteneveryyearintheunitedstates.andthesedrugsaregoinggeneric.theyareseepingaroundtheworld.iknowonegirlwho'sbeenontheseantidepressants,serotonin-enhancing--ssri,serotonin-enhancingantidepressants--sinceshewas13.she's23.

she'sbeenonthemeversinceshewas13.

i'vegotnothingagainstpeoplewhotakethemshortterm,whenthey'regoingthroughsomethingperfectlyhorrible.theywanttocommitsuicideorkillsomebodyelse.iwouldrecommendit.butmoreandmorepeopleintheunitedstatesaretakingthemlongterm.andindeed,whatthesedrugsdoisraiselevelsofserotonin.andbyraisinglevelsofserotonin,yousuppressthedopaminecircuit.everybodyknowsthat.dopamineisassociatedwithromanticlove.notonlydotheysuppressthedopaminecircuit,buttheykillthesexdrive.andwhenyoukillthesexdrive,youkillorgasm.andwhenyoukillorgasm,youkillthatfloodofdrugsassociatedwithattachment.thethingsareconnectedinthebrain.andwhenyoutamperwithonebrainsystem,you'regoingtotamperwithanother.i'mjustsimplysayingthataworldwithoutloveisadeadlyplace.

sonow--(applause)--thankyou.iwanttoendwithastory.andthen,justacomment.i'vebeenstudyingromanticloveandsexandattachmentfor30years.i'manidenticaltwin;iaminterestedinwhywe'reallalike.whyyouandiarealike,whytheiraqisandthejapaneseandtheaustralianaboriginesandthepeopleoftheamazonriverareallalike.

andaboutayearago,aninternetdatingservice,,cametomeandaskedmeifiwoulddesignanewdatingsiteforthem.isaid,xxxidon'tknowanythingaboutpersonality.youknow?idon'tknow.doyouthinkyou'vegottherightperson?xxxtheysaid,xxxyes.xxxitgotmethinkingaboutwhyitisthatyoufallinlovewithonepersonratherthananother.

that'smycurrentproject;itwillbemynextbook.there'sallkindsofreasonsthatyoufallinlovewithonepersonratherthananother.timingisimportant.proximityisimportant.mysteryisimportant.youfallinlovewithsomebodywho'ssomewhatmysterious,inpartbecausemysteryelevatesdopamineinthebrain,probablypushesyouoverthatthresholdtofallinlove.youfallinlovewithsomebodywhofitswithinwhaticallyourxxxlovemap,xxxanunconsciouslistoftraitsthatyoubuildinchildhoodasyougrowup.

andialsothinkthatyougravitatetocertainpeople,actually,withsomewhatcomplementarybrainsystems.andthat'swhati'mnowcontributingtothis.

butiwanttotellyouastoryabout--toillustrate.i'vebeencarryingonhereaboutthebiologyoflove.iwantedtoshowyoualittlebitaboutthecultureofit,too--themagicofit.it'sastorythatwastoldtomebysomebodywhohadhearditjustfromoneofthe--probablyatruestory.itwasagraduatestudentat--i'matrutgersandmytwocolleagues--artaronisatsunystonybrook.that'swhereweputourpeopleinthemrimachine.

andthisgraduatestudentwasmadlyinlovewithanothergraduatestudent,andshewasnotinlovewithhim.andtheywereallataconferenceinbeijing.andheknewfromourworkthatifyougoanddosomethingverynovelwithsomebody,youcandriveupthedopamineinthebrain,andperhapstriggerthisbrainsystemforromanticlove.(laughter)sohedecidedhe'dputsciencetowork,andheinvitedthisgirltogooffonarickshawridewithhim.

andsureenough--i'veneverbeeninone,butapparentlytheygoallaroundthebusesandthetrucksandit'scrazyandit'snoisyandit'sexciting.andhefiguredthatthiswoulddriveupthedopamine,andshewouldfallinlovewithhim.soofftheygoandshe'ssquealingandsqueezinghimandlaughingandhavingawonderfultime.anhourlatertheygetdownoffoftherickshaw,andshethrowsherhandsupandshesays,xxxwasn'tthatwonderful?xxxand,xxxwasn'tthatrickshawdriverhandsome!xxx(laughter)(applause)

there'smagictolove!butiwillendbysayingthatmillionsofyearsago,weevolvedthreebasicdrives:thesexdrive,romanticloveandattachmenttoalong-termpartner.thesecircuitsaredeeplyembeddedinthehumanbrain.they'regoingtosurviveaslongasourspeciessurvivesonwhatshakespearecalledxxxthismortalcoil.xxxthankyou.(applause)

我認(rèn)為它是從最初的交配和繁殖發(fā)展而來的最基本的三種不同的大腦組織。其中一種是性欲：對性的一種渴望。稱之為：不能忍受的神經(jīng)性沖動(dòng)確實(shí)，它就是那樣的。它總是不停的煩擾著你，就像饑餓一樣。第二個(gè)就是浪漫的愛情：那種讓人歡欣鼓舞，使人癡迷的情竇初開。那第三種就是依賴那是一種從長期伴侶那里才能體會(huì)到的寧靜和安全。

我認(rèn)為就是對性的渴望使你走出去從人群中尋找伴侶你知道，在你開車的時(shí)候你可以感覺到它它會(huì)使人魂不守舍而浪漫愛情會(huì)使你專注只與一個(gè)人發(fā)生關(guān)系因此你儲(chǔ)蓄著交配的能量，等待著時(shí)機(jī)而第三種大腦系統(tǒng)：依賴則發(fā)展成使你能夠?qū)λ?她很忍耐(笑聲)。這種寬容至少可以幫你撐過撫養(yǎng)小孩的這段時(shí)間。

開場白之后，我要討論兩個(gè)最顯著的社會(huì)趨勢。其中一個(gè)產(chǎn)生于1002019年前，另一個(gè)則是25年前，這兩種趨勢都對性欲，愛情，和依賴這三種不同的腦系統(tǒng)產(chǎn)生過影響。

第一個(gè)階段就是女人開始工作，成為勞動(dòng)力的一部分。我查過聯(lián)合國的世界人口統(tǒng)計(jì)年鑒中的130-150個(gè)國家發(fā)現(xiàn)130個(gè)中有129個(gè)國家的女性在進(jìn)入勞動(dòng)市場過程可能比較緩慢的，但這個(gè)趨勢確定無疑男性與女性之間經(jīng)濟(jì)能力，健康和教育方面的距離正在縮小這個(gè)過程同樣非常緩慢

對于地球上出現(xiàn)的每種趨勢，總會(huì)伴隨著一種阻力對此，我們都很了解，但就像古老的阿拉伯諺語所說的：“狗會(huì)叫吠，但是車隊(duì)仍在前行。”事實(shí)上也的確如此，這一趨勢滾滾向前。女性正在重返勞動(dòng)市場。我之所以說是重返，因?yàn)榕詣趧?dòng)這事并不新鮮。在百萬年以來的非洲大地上，女性每天往返于牧場種植收割蔬菜。她們帶著60-80%的晚餐回到家雙人收入的家庭才是標(biāo)準(zhǔn)家庭同時(shí)，女性也擁有同男性一樣的經(jīng)濟(jì)能力，社會(huì)能力和選擇伴侶的權(quán)力簡而言之，我們是返璞歸真了

然而，女性最差的發(fā)明就是犁隨著犁耕農(nóng)業(yè)社會(huì)的開始，男性的所扮演的角色變得出奇的強(qiáng)勢女性失去了其作為收割者原始的工作但是隨著工業(yè)革命和后工業(yè)革命的產(chǎn)生女性開始重返勞動(dòng)市場簡而言之，她們正在獲得在百萬年前就擁的社會(huì)地位和身份甚至早在1002019年甚至10002019年前就曾擁有過我們現(xiàn)在看到的是人類歷史上最具標(biāo)志性的傳統(tǒng)之一而且這個(gè)傳統(tǒng)正在產(chǎn)生影響

通常，我的整個(gè)講演都可以圍繞女性對經(jīng)濟(jì)領(lǐng)域的影響，這次我只會(huì)舉其中幾件事來講，接下來講愛情和性的部分男性與女性之間存在很多的差異那那些認(rèn)為男人和女人很相似的人肯定沒有同時(shí)撫養(yǎng)過兒子和女兒我不知道為什么他們會(huì)認(rèn)為男人和女人是一樣的男人和女人是有很多相同的地方，但是也有很多不同

正如tedhughs所言，“我們就像人的兩只腳一樣，需要彼此配合才能繼續(xù)前行?！钡覀兊拇竽X并沒有進(jìn)化成一樣的構(gòu)造而且現(xiàn)在正發(fā)現(xiàn)越來越多在思想上的差異我只講其中幾點(diǎn)，然后就將進(jìn)入到性和愛情的部分其中一個(gè)是女性的語言能力。女人是聊天高手

女性可以迅速找到正確的詞匯，最清楚的說明事情這種能力在月經(jīng)周期中間雌性激素達(dá)到頂峰時(shí)提高但是就算是在月經(jīng)的時(shí)候，她們的表現(xiàn)都比普通男性好女性擅于交談她們早在百萬年前就如此，語言是她們的工具她們面對面的撫養(yǎng)教育小孩她們用語言哄小孩，罵小孩，教育小孩然而，女性正在成為一股強(qiáng)大的力量

甚至在一些女性進(jìn)入普通勞動(dòng)市場較慢的國家如印度和日本女性也進(jìn)入到了新聞行業(yè)我認(rèn)為電視就像一個(gè)全球的篝火晚會(huì)我們圍著它，同時(shí)它也在影響著我們的思想每每在我錄制節(jié)目時(shí)，那些給我打電話商量談話內(nèi)容的制片人幾乎都是女性事實(shí)上，solzhenitsyn曾經(jīng)說過，“擁有一個(gè)偉大的作家就像擁有了另一個(gè)政府”

愛情是怎樣的范文英語第二篇Mutualunderstandingisthekeytoasuccesulmarriage.Thereisasayingthatxxxmarriageisthegraveoflovexxx.Tosomeextent,itisdifficulttounderstand,becauseloveisromanticinmostcases.

Theloverseesthebrightsideofeachother,butmarriagehassomethingmorevulgarindailylife.Younotonlyfindhisorheradvantages,butsometimesyouarenotwillingtofindhimorherSheoffendedyou.Therefore,mutualunderstandingisveryimportanttomaintainagoodmarriage.

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相互理解是婚姻成功的關(guān)鍵，有句諺語說：“婚姻是愛情的墳?zāi)埂?，在某種程度上，這是很難理解的，因?yàn)閻矍樵诖蠖鄶?shù)情況下是浪漫的，愛的人看到對方光明的一面，但婚姻在日常生活中卻有更粗俗的東西，你不僅發(fā)現(xiàn)了他或她的優(yōu)點(diǎn)，有時(shí)你也不愿意發(fā)現(xiàn)他或她冒犯了你。因此，相互理解對維持一段美好的婚姻是非常重要的。

愛情是怎樣的范文英語第三篇愛情的英語經(jīng)典演講稿范文

ifispeakinthetonguesofmenandofangels,buthavenotlove,iamonlyaresoundinggongoraclangingcymbal.ifihavethegiftofprophecyandcanfathomallmysteriesandallknowledge,andifihaveafaiththatcanmovemountains,buthavenotlove,iamnothing.ifigiveallipossesstothepoorandsurrendermybodytotheflames,buthavenotlove,igainnothing.

loveispatient,loveiskind.itdoesnotenvy,itdoesnotboast,itisnotproud.itisnotrude,itisnotself-seeking,itisnoteasilyangered,itkeepsnorecordofwrongs.

lovedoesnotdelightinevilbutrejoiceswiththetruth.italwaysprotects,alwaystrusts,alwayshopes,alwaysperseveres.

loveneverfails.butwherethereareprophecies,theywillcease;wheretherearetongues,theywillbestilled;wherethereisknowledge,itwillpassaway.forweknowinpartandweprophesyinpart,butwhenperfectioncomes,theimperfectdisappears.wheniwasachild,italkedlikeachild,ithoughtlikeachild,ireasonedlikeachild.whenibecameaman,iputchildishwaysbehindme.nowweseebutapoorreflectionasinamirror;thenweshallseefacetoface.nowiknowinpart;thenishallknowfully,evenasiamfullyknown.andnowthesethreeremain:faith,hopeandlove.butthegreatestoftheseislove.

ithurtstolovesomeoneandnotbelovedinreturn.butwhatismorepainfulistolovesomeoneandneverfindthecouragetoletthatpersonknowhowyoufeel.

asadthinginlifeiswhenyoumeetsomeonewhomeansalottoyou,onlytofindoutintheendthatitwasnevermeanttobeandyoujusthavetoletgo.

thebestkindoffriendisthekindyoucansitonaporchswingwith,neversayaword,andthenwalkawayfeelinglikeitwasthebestconversationyou'veeverhad.

it'struethatwedon'tknowwhatwe'vegotuntilweloseit,butit'salsotruethatwedon'tknowwhatwe'vebeenmissinguntilitarrives.

ittakesonlyaminutetogetacrushonsomeone,anhourtolikesomeone,andadaytolovesomeone-butittakesalifetimetoforgetsomeone.don'tgoforlooks;theycandeceive.don'tgoforwealth,eventhatfadesaway.goforsomeonewhomakesyousmilebecauseittakesonlyasmiletomakeadarkdayseembright.

dreamwhatyouwanttodream;gowhereyouwanttogo;bewhatyouwant

tobe,becauseyouhaveonlyonelifeandonechancetodoallthethingsyouwanttodo.

alwaysputyourselfintheother'sshoes.ifyoufeelthatithurtsyou,itprobablyhurtsthepersontoo.

acarelesswordmaykindlestrife;acruelwordmaywreckalife;atimelywordmaylevelstress;alovingwordmayhealandbless.

thehappiestofpeopledon'tnecessarilyhavethebestofeverythingtheyjustmakethemostofeverythingthatcomesalongtheirway.

lovebeginswithasmile,growswithakiss,endswithatear.whenyouwereborn,youwerecryingandeveryonearoundyouwassmiling.liveyourlifesothatwhenyoudie,you'retheonesmilingandeveryonearoundyouiscrying.

therewasonceaguywhosufferedfromcancer,acancerthatcan?ˉtbecured.hewas18yearsoldandhecoulddieanytime.allhislife,hewasstuckinhishousebeingtakencaredbyhismother.heneverwentoutsidebuthewassickofstayinghomeandwantedtogooutforonce.soheaskedhismotherandshegavehimpermission.

hewalkeddownhisblockandfoundalotofstores.hepassedacdstoreandlookedthroughthefrontdoorforasecondashewalked.hestoppedandwentbacktolookintothestore.hesawabeautifulgirlabouthisageandheknewitwasloveatfirstsight.heopenedthedoorandwalkedin,notlookingatanythingelsebuther.hewalkedcloserandcloseruntilhewasfinallyatthefrontdeskwhereshesat.

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