答完36個(gè)問題異性愛上你

1、只要和一個(gè)陌生的異性/同性一起答復(fù)36個(gè)問題，然后對(duì)視4分鐘，你們就會(huì)相愛。你信么？信或不信，都可以玩一下這個(gè)游戲試試。設(shè)定：首先抓一個(gè)人和你一起坐在電腦前。游戲規(guī)那么：根據(jù)網(wǎng)站提示，一起答復(fù)36個(gè)問題，然后完成4分鐘對(duì)視，沒準(zhǔn)你就會(huì)收獲一場(chǎng)奮不顧身的愛情。20年前就有心理學(xué)家進(jìn)行過這樣的嘗試，在實(shí)驗(yàn)室中讓一對(duì)男女答復(fù)這些問題然后對(duì)視，六個(gè)月后他們結(jié)婚了。心理學(xué)家也根據(jù)他的很屢次嘗試結(jié)果發(fā)了論文。現(xiàn)在有一個(gè)人用這些問題和實(shí)驗(yàn)流程制作了一個(gè)網(wǎng)站，暫且叫它愛情發(fā)生器，只要兩個(gè)人一起根據(jù)網(wǎng)站的指引完成測(cè)試，就會(huì)帶來神奇的效果。問題的設(shè)置無疑是最關(guān)鍵的。測(cè)試分為三個(gè)局部，每局部12個(gè)問題。開篇第一個(gè)問

2、題是，你最想和世界上哪個(gè)人一起吃飯？之后是諸如“你想變得有名嗎？以何種方式，“給別人打 是否會(huì)排練，“如何定義完美的一天，“最感謝的東西是什么等關(guān)于生活細(xì)節(jié)的問題。第二局部的問題設(shè)置相對(duì)深入一些，同時(shí)也更加私密。很多預(yù)設(shè)性的問題想要探究的其實(shí)是答復(fù)者對(duì)事情的態(tài)度，也就是世界觀、人生觀和價(jià)值觀。比方，第二局部會(huì)很直接地針對(duì)夢(mèng)想、個(gè)人成就、最珍貴和最糟糕的回憶、對(duì)愛情和家庭的看法以及跟母親的關(guān)系進(jìn)行提問。最后一局部開始幫助兩個(gè)人建立親密關(guān)系。比方會(huì)要求用“我們?yōu)橹髡Z造句，說出最希望和別人分享的東西，以及一些只有和親密的人才會(huì)分享的事情比方最為難的時(shí)刻，最近一次哭泣。緊接著是老實(shí)說出你已經(jīng)喜歡他們的

3、地方，和個(gè)人認(rèn)為不可以開玩笑的雷區(qū)。倒數(shù)幾個(gè)預(yù)設(shè)問題更狠：如果你今晚就會(huì)死去而沒有時(shí)機(jī)和任何人再說任何事，你最懊悔的將是沒有說出什么？為什么沒有說？或者是，你的房子著火了只能救一樣?xùn)|西的話它會(huì)是什么？以及在你所有家庭成員中誰的去世會(huì)讓你最痛苦。最后一個(gè)問題是，和同伴分享正在面臨的個(gè)人問題，然后詢問他/她的建議，同時(shí)要求雙方對(duì)于這些問題的反應(yīng)。相信如果兩個(gè)人順利將測(cè)試做到這個(gè)地方，已經(jīng)對(duì)彼此有了一定深度的了解，同時(shí)建立了比擬特別的關(guān)系。畢竟，尋找愛情不就是在尋找一個(gè)你認(rèn)為“特別的人嗎。而此時(shí)，勝券在握的心理學(xué)家還設(shè)計(jì)了一個(gè)最致命的環(huán)節(jié)要求兩人對(duì)視4分鐘。在網(wǎng)站上還將此環(huán)節(jié)設(shè)計(jì)了倒計(jì)時(shí)，在前面那場(chǎng)

4、觸及靈魂的談話之后，恐怕這四分鐘將會(huì)成為測(cè)試者最難忘的回憶。對(duì)于在線交友這個(gè)剛需而言，或許僅僅根據(jù)地理位置或二度人脈的推介都是遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)不夠的。如果可以在在線匹配階段參加更多精確篩選和配對(duì)的機(jī)制，同時(shí)在線下見面階段提供類似這樣的輔助功能，相信互聯(lián)網(wǎng)的效率會(huì)比非誠(chéng)勿擾高很多。36個(gè)提問內(nèi)容如下：A simple test claims to offer the solution to making two people fall head-over-heels, by making them vulnerable to each other. Why not give it a try?據(jù)說，一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單

5、的測(cè)試就能讓兩個(gè)人深深相愛，因?yàn)檫@個(gè)測(cè)試可以讓對(duì)方看到自己脆弱的一面。為什么不試試呢？The key? To ask someone the 36 questions below - and answer them yourself. Doing this, psychologists have claimed, can make absolutely anyone fall in head-over-heels.問這些問題的關(guān)鍵是什么呢？問某一個(gè)人下面這36個(gè)問題，然后反過來給出你的答案。心理學(xué)家稱，這樣做會(huì)讓任何人深深地愛上你?？靵碚覀€(gè)你暗戀的人試驗(yàn)一番吧！說不準(zhǔn)還能抱得美人nan歸呢雖說

6、問題確實(shí)有點(diǎn)多，不過為了你喜歡已久的人，付出這點(diǎn)算什么！需要你們其中一位先大聲讀出第一個(gè)問題，之后，你們輪流答復(fù)下列問題，從大聲讀題的那個(gè)人開始。當(dāng)你們都完成答復(fù)后，進(jìn)行第二個(gè)問題，你們其中一個(gè)人大聲地讀出來并且輪流答復(fù)。兩個(gè)人輪流交替讀出下一個(gè)新的問題。The 36 questions which can make anyone fall in love with you:36個(gè)問題，任何人都會(huì)愛上你：Set One問題第一局部1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?如

7、果你可以選擇世界上任何一個(gè)人，你想讓誰做你晚餐的客人呢？2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?你想知名嗎？以哪種方式？3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?在打 之前，你有沒有排練過你想要說的話？為什么？4. What would constitute a “perfect day for you?你的完美一天由什么組成？5. When did you last sing to yourself? To som

8、eone else?你最后一次單獨(dú)唱歌是什么時(shí)候？最后一次和別人一起唱歌是什么時(shí)候？6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?如果你能活到90歲，在你人生最后60年里，你想擁有30歲的大腦還是身體？7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?你有想過你會(huì)怎么死嗎？8. N

9、ame three things you and your partner appear to have in common.舉出你和我的三個(gè)共同之處。9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?在你的人生中什么讓你最感謝？10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?如果你能改變你成長(zhǎng)的方式，你會(huì)去改變什么？11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life sto

10、ry in as much detail as possible.用四分鐘，盡可能詳盡地告訴我你一生的故事。12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?如果你明天一覺醒來，擁有了某種新的品質(zhì)或者能力，那會(huì)是什么呢？Set Two第二局部13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what wou

11、ld you want to know?如果水晶球能告訴你關(guān)于你自己、你的人生、未來或者任何其他事情的真相，你想知道什么？14. Is there something that youve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why havent you done it?有沒有某樣?xùn)|西/某件事讓你魂?duì)繅?mèng)繞很久卻沒有實(shí)現(xiàn)的呢？為什么還沒做呢？15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?你一生最大的成就是什么？16. What do you value most in a friendship?友誼中你最

12、珍惜的是什么？17. What is your most treasured memory?你最珍貴的記憶是什么？18. What is your most terrible memory?你最糟糕的記憶是什么？19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?如果你知道一年后你會(huì)突然死去，你會(huì)改變現(xiàn)在的生活方式嗎？為什么？20. What does friendship mean to you?友誼對(duì)你

13、意味著什么？21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?愛情和感情在你的人生中起了什么作用？22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.分享你認(rèn)為我身上的5個(gè)優(yōu)點(diǎn)。23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most oth

14、er peoples?你的家庭多親密？你覺得自己的童年比大多數(shù)人都快樂嗎？24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?你覺得你和母親的關(guān)系怎么樣？Set Three第三局部25. Make three true “we statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling . “分別造三句“我們的句子。例如，“我們同時(shí)在這個(gè)房間，感覺26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with

15、whom I could share . “完成這句句子：“我希望我有一個(gè)能和他分享的人。27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.如果你想和我成為親密的朋友，請(qǐng)分享你認(rèn)為很重要并一定要我知曉的事情。28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that yo

16、u might not say to someone youve just met.告訴我你喜歡我的什么；一定要中肯老實(shí)，不要說那些和第一次見面的陌生人就能說的泛泛之談。29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.分享給我你一生中一個(gè)為難的瞬間。30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?你最近一次在別人面前哭是什么時(shí)候？被誰弄哭的？還是自己哭的？31. Tell your partner something that yo

17、u like about them already.告訴我你已經(jīng)喜歡我的一點(diǎn)。32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?什么樣的玩笑不能開？如果有的話33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why havent you told them yet?如果今晚你要死了，卻沒有時(shí)機(jī)和任何人交流，你最懊悔

18、沒有告訴某人什么事？你為什么到現(xiàn)在為止沒有說呢？34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?如果你的家包括你的所有財(cái)產(chǎn)著火了。在救了愛的人和寵物外，你還有時(shí)間平安地再?zèng)_進(jìn)去撿回一個(gè)東西。會(huì)是什么呢？為什么？35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?家中所有的人中，誰的死會(huì)讓你最不安？為什么？36. Share a personal problem and ask your partners advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back