TED演講：用肢體語(yǔ)言來(lái)塑造自己

1、TED演講：用肢體語(yǔ)言來(lái)塑造自己 cuddy your body la nguage shapes who you areSo I want to start by offeri ng you a free no-tech life hack, and all it requires of you is this: that you cha nge your posture for two minu tes. But before I give it away, I want to ask you to right now do a little audit of your body and

2、what you're doing with your body. So how many of you are sort of maki ng yourselves smaller? Maybe you're hunching, cross ing your legs, maybe wrapp ing your an kles. Sometimes we hold onto our arms like this.Sometimes we spread out. (Laughter) I see you. (Laughter) So I want you to pay atte

3、 nti on to what you're doing right now. We're going to come back to that in a few minutes, and I'm hoping that if you learn to tweak this a little bit, it could significantly change the way your life un folds.So, we're really fasci nated with body Ian guage, and we're particularl

4、y in terested in other people's body Ian guage. You know, we're in terested in, like, you know (Laughter) anawkward in teracti on, or a smile, or a con temptuous gla nee, or maybe a very awkward wink, or maybe eve n someth ing like a han dshake.Narrator: Here they are arriving at Number 10,

5、and look at this lucky policeman gets to shake hands with the Preside nt of the Un ited States. Oh, and here comes the Prime Mini ster of the ? No. (Laughter) (Applause) (Laughter) (Applause)Amy Cuddy: So a han dshake, or the lack of a han dshake, can have us talk ing for weeks and weeks and weeks.

6、Eve n the BBC and The New York Times. So obviously whe n we think about non verbal behavior, or body Ian guage - but we call it non verbals as social scie ntists - it's Ian guage, so we think about com mun icatio n. When we think about com muni catio n, we think about i nteract ions. So what is

7、your body Ian guage com muni cati ng to me? What's mine com muni cat ing to you?And there's a lot of reas on to believe that this is a valid way to look at this. So socialscie ntists have spe nt a lot of time look ing at the effects of our body Ian guage, or other people's body Ian guage

8、, on judgme nts. And we make sweep ing judgme nts andinferences from body Ian guage. And those judgme nts can predict really meanin gful life outcomes like who we hire or promote, who we ask out on a date. For example, Nali ni Ambady, a researcher at Tufts Uni versity, shows that whe n people watch

9、30-sec ond soun dless clips of real physicia n-patie nt in teract ions, their judgme nts of the physicia n's nicen ess predict whether or not that physicia n will be sued. So it does n't have to do so much with whether or not that physicia n was in compete nt, but do we like that pers on and

10、 how they in teracted? Even more dramatic, Alex Todorov at Princeton has show n us that judgme nts of political can didates' faces in just one sec ond predict 70 perce nt of U.S. Sen ate and gubern atorial race outcomes, and even, let's go digital, emotic ons used well in on li ne n egotiati

11、 ons can lead to you claim more value from that n egotiatio n. If you use them poorly, bad idea. Right? So whe n we think of non verbals, we think of how we judge others, how they judge us and what the outcomes are. We tend to forget, though, the other audie nee that's in flue need by our non ve

12、rbals, and that's ourselves.We are also in flue need by our non verbals, our thoughts and our feeli ngs and our physiology. So what non verbals am I talk ing about? rm a social psychologist. I study prejudice, and I teach at a competitive bus in ess school, so it was in evitable that I would bec

13、ome in terested in power dyn amics. I became especially in terested in non verbal expressi ons of power and dominance.And what are non verbal expressi ons of power and dominance? Well, this is what they are. So in the ani mal kin gdom, they are about expa nding. So you make yourself big, you stretch

14、 out, you take up space, you're basically ope ning up. It's about ope ning up. And this is true across the animal kingdom. It's not just limited to primates. And humans do the same thing. (Laughter) So they do this both whe n they have power sort of chro ni cally, and also when they'

15、re feeling powerful in the moment. And this one is especially interesting because it really shows us how uni versal and old these expressi ons of power are. This expressi on, which is known as pride, Jessica Tracy has studied. She shows that people who are born with sight and people who are congen i

16、tally bli nd do this whe n they win at a physical competiti on. So whe n they cross the finish line and they've won, it does n't matter if they've n ever see n anyone do it. They do this. So the arms up in the V, the chin is slightly lifted. What do we do whe n we feel powerless? We do e

17、xactly the opposite. We close up. We wrap ourselves up. We make ourselves small. We don't want to bump into the pers on next to us. So aga in, both ani mals and huma ns do the same thing. And this is what happe ns whe n you put together high and low power. So what we tend to do whe n it comes to

18、 power is that we compleme nt the other's non verbals. So if some one is being really powerful with us, we tend to make ourselves smaller. We don't mirror them. We do the opposite of them.So I'm watching this behavior in the classroom, and what do I notice? I notice that MBA stude nts re

19、ally exhibit the full range of power non verbals. So you have people who are like caricatures of alphas, really coming into the room, they get right into the middle of the room before class even starts, like they really want to occupy space. When they sit dow n, they're sort of spread out. They

20、raise their hands like this. You have other people who are virtually collapsing when they come in. As soon they come in, you see it. You see it on their faces and their bodies, and they sit in their chair and they make themselves tiny, and they go like this whe n they raise their han d. I no tice a

21、couple of things about this. One, you're not going to be surprised. It seems to be related to gen der. So wome n are much more likely to do this kind of thing than men. Women feel chronically less powerful than men, so this is not surprising. But the other thing I noticed is that it also seemed

22、to be related to the exte nt to which the stude nts were participat ing, and how well they were participating. And this is really important in the MBA classroom, because participation counts for half the grade.So bus in ess schools have bee n struggli ng with this gen der grade gap. You get these eq

23、ually qualified wome n and men coming in and the n you get these differe nces in grades, and it seems to be partly attributable to participation. So I started to wonder, you know, okay, so you have these people coming in like this, and they're participat in g. Is it possible that we could get pe

24、ople to fake it and would it lead them to participate more?So my main collaborator Dana Carn ey, who's at Berkeley, and I really wan ted to know, can you fake it till you make it? Like, can you do this just for a little while and actually experie nee a behavioral outcome that makes you seem more

25、 powerful? So we know that our non verbals gover n how other people think and feel about us. There's a lot of evide nee. But our questio n really was, do our non verbals gover n how we think and feel about ourselves?There's some evidenee that they do. So, for example, we smile when we feel h

26、appy, but also, when we're forced to smile by holding a pen in our teeth like this, it makes us feel happy. So it goes both ways. When it comes to power, it also goes both ways. So when you feel powerful, you're more likely to do this, but it's also possible that when you prete nd to be

27、powerful, you are more likely to actually feel powerful.So the sec ond questio n really was, you know, so we know that our minds cha nge our bodies, but is it also true that our bodies cha nge our min ds? And whe n I say min ds, in the case of the powerful, what am I talk ing about? So rm talk ing a

28、bout thoughts and feeli ngs and the sort of physiological things that make up our thoughts and feeli ngs, and in my case, that's horm on es. I look at horm on es. So what do the minds of the powerful versus the powerless look like? So powerful people tend to be, not surprisingly, more assertive

29、and more con fide nt, more optimistic. They actually feel that they're going to win even at games of cha nee. They also tend to be able to think more abstractly. So there are a lot of differe nces. They take more risks. There are a lot of differe nces betwee n powerful and powerless people. Phys

30、iologically, there also are differe nces on two key horm on es: testosterone, which is the dominance hormone, and cortisol, which is the stress hormone.So what we find is that high-power alpha males in primate hierarchies have high testoster one and low cortisol, and powerful and effective leaders a

31、lso have high testoster one and low cortisol. So what does that mean? When you think about power, people ten ded to think only about testoster one, because that was about dominance. But really, power is also about how you react to stress. So do you want the high-power leader that's dominant, hig

32、h on testoster one, but really stress reactive? Probably not, right? You want the pers on who's powerful and assertive and dominant, but not very stress reactive, the pers on who's laid back.So we know that in primate hierarchies, if an alpha n eeds to take over, if an in dividual n eeds to

33、take over an alpha role sort of sudde nly, with in a few days, that i ndividual's testosterone has gone up significantly and his cortisol has dropped significantly. So we have this evide nee, both that the body can shape the mind, at least at the facial level, and also that role cha nges can sha

34、pe the mind. So what happe ns, okay, you take a role change, what happens if you do that at a really minimal level, like this tiny manipulation, this tiny intervention? "For two minutes," you say, "I want you to stand like this, and it's going to make you feel more powerful."

35、So this is what we did. We decided to bring people into the lab and run a little experiment, and these people adopted, for two minu tes, either high-power poses or low-power poses, and rm just going to show you five of the poses, although they took on only two. So here's one. A couple more. This

36、 one has bee n dubbed the "Won der Woma n" by the media. Here are a couple more. So you can be sta nding or you can be sitti ng. And here are the low-power poses. So you're foldi ng up, you're making yourself small. This one is very low-power. When you're touchi ng your n eck,

37、you're really protect ing yourself. So this is what happe ns. They come in, they spit into a vial, we for two minu tes say, "You n eed to do this or this." They don't look at pictures of the poses. We don't want to prime them with a concept of power. We want them to be feeling

38、power, right? So two minutes they do this. We the n ask them, "How powerful do you feel?" on a series of items, and the n we give them an opport unity to gamble, and the n we take ano ther saliva sample. That's it. That's the whole experime nt.So this is what we find. Risk tolerane

39、e, which is the gambling, what we find is that when you're in the high-power pose con diti on, 86 perce nt of you will gamble. When you're in the low-power pose condition, only 60 percent, and that's a pretty whopping significant differe nee. Here's what we find on testostero ne. Fro

40、m their baseli ne whe n they come in, high-power people experie nee about a 20-perce nt in crease, and low-power people experie nee about a 10-perce nt decrease. So aga in, two minu tes, and you get these cha nges. Here's what you get on cortisol. High-power people experie nee about a 25-perce n

41、t decrease, and the low-power people experie nee about a 15-perce nt in crease. So two minu tes lead to these horm onal cha nges that con figure your brain to basically be either assertive, con fide nt and comfortable, or really stress-reactive, and, you know, feeli ng sort of shut dow n. And we'

42、;ve all had the feeli ng, right? So it seems that our non verbals do gover n how we think and feel about ourselves, so it's not just others, but it's also ourselves. Also, our bodies cha nge our min ds.But the next questio n, of course, is can power pos ing for a few minu tes really cha nge

43、your life in meanin gful ways? So this is in the lab. It's this little task, you kno w, it's just a couple of minutes. Where can you actually apply this? Which we cared about, of course. And so we think it's really, what matters, I mean, where you want to use this is evaluative situation

44、s like social threat situations. Where are you being evaluated, either by your frien ds? Like for tee nagers it's at the lun chroom table. It could be, you know, for some people it's speak ing at a school board meet in g. It might be givi ng a pitch or givi ng a talk like this or doing a job

45、 in terview. We decided that the one that most people could relate to because most people had bee n through was the job in terview.So we published these findin gs, and the media are all over it, and they say, Okay, so this is what you do whe n you go in for the job in terview, right? (Laughter) You

46、know, so we were of course horrified, and said, Oh my God, no, no, no, that's not what we meant at all. For nu merous reas ons, no, no, no, don't do that. Aga in, this is not about you talk ing to other people. It's you talk ing to yourself. What do you do before you go into a job in ter

47、view? You do this. Right? You're sitt ing dow n. You're look ing at your iPh one - or your An droid, not trying to leave anyone out. You are, you know, you're look ing at your no tes, you're hunching up, making yourself small, whe n really what you should be doing maybe is this, like

48、, in the bathroom, right? Do that. Find two minutes. So that's what we want to test. Okay? So we bring people into a lab, and they do either high- or low-power poses aga in, they go through a very stressful job in terview. It's five minu tes long. They are being recorded. They're being j

49、udged also, and the judges are trained to give no non verbal feedback, so they look like this. Like, imagi ne this is the pers on in terview ing you. So for five minu tes, nothing, and this is worse tha n being heckled. People hate this. It's what Maria nne LaFra nee calls "sta nding in soc

50、ial quicksa nd." So this really spikes your cortisol.So this is the job in terview we put them through, because we really wan ted to see what happe ned. We the n have these coders look at these tapes, four of them. They're bli nd to the hypothesis. They're bli nd to the con diti ons. Th

51、ey have no idea who's bee n pos ing in what pose, and they end up look ing at these sets of tapes, and they say, "Oh, we want to hire these people," - all the high-power posers - "we don't want to hire these people. We also evaluate these people much more positively overall.&q

52、uot; But what's driving it? It's not about the content of the speech. It's about the prese nee that they're bringing to the speech. We also, because we rate them on all these variables related to compete nee, like, how well-structured is the speech? How good is it? What are their qua

53、lifications? No effect on those thin gs. This is what's affected. These kinds of thin gs. People are bringing their true selves, basically. They're bringing themselves. They bring their ideas, but as themselves, with no, you know, residue over them. So this is what's driving the effect,

54、or mediating the effect.So whe n I tell people about this, that our bodies cha nge our minds and our minds can cha nge our behavior, and our behavior can cha nge our outcomes, they say to me, "I don't -It feels fake." Right? So I said, fake it till you make it. I don't - It's n

55、ot me. I don't want to get there and then still feel like a fraud. I don't want to feel like an impostor. I don't want to get there only to feel like I'm not supposed to be here. And that really resonated with me, because I want to tell you a little story about being an impostor and

56、feeling like I'm not supposed to be here.When I was 19, I was in a really bad car accide nt. I was throw n out of a car, rolled several times. I was throw n from the car. And I woke up in a head injury rehab ward, and I had bee n withdraw n from college, and I lear ned that my I.Q. had dropped b

57、y two sta ndard deviations, which was very traumatic. I knew my I.Q. because I had identified with being smart, and I had bee n called gifted as a child. So rm take n out of college, I keep trying to go back. They say, "You're not going to finish college. Just, you know, there are other thi

58、ngs for you to do, but that's not going to work out for you." So I really struggled with this, and I have to say, having your identity taken from you, your core identity, and for me it was being smart, having that taken from you, there's nothing that leaves you feeling more powerless th

59、a n that. So I felt en tirely powerless. I worked and worked and worked, and I got lucky, and worked, and got lucky, and worked.Even tually I graduated from college. It took me four years Ion ger tha n my peers, and I convinced some one, my an gel advisor, Susa n Fiske, to take me on, and so I en de

60、d up at Princeton, and I was like, I am not supposed to be here. I am an impostor. And the ni ght before my first-year talk, and the first-year talk at Princeton is a 20-minute talk to 20 people. That's it. I was so afraid of being found out the n ext day that I called her and said, "I'

61、m quitting." She was like, "You are not quitting, because I took a gamble on you, and you're stay ing. You're going to stay, and this is what you're going to do. You are going to fake it. You're going to do every talk that you ever get asked to do. You're just going to do it and do it and do it, even if you're terrified and just paralyzed and having an out-of-body experienee, until you have this moment where you say, 'Oh my gosh, I'm doing it. Like, I have become this. I am