TED演講英文演講稿：內(nèi)向性格的力量

1、TED演講英文演講稿：內(nèi)向性格的力量When I was nine years ld I went ff t summer camp fr the first time. And my mther packed me a suitcase full f bks, which t me seemed like a perfectly natural thing t d. Because in my family, reading was the primary grup activity. And this might sund antiscial t yu, but fr us it was

2、really just a different way f being scial. Yu have the animal warmth f yur family sitting right net t yu, but yu are als free t g raming arund the adventureland inside yur wn mind. And I had this idea that camp was ging t be just like this, but better. (Laughter) I had a visin f 10 girls sitting in

3、a cabin czily reading bks in their matching nightgwns.(Laughter)Camp was mre like a keg party withut any alchl. And n the very first day ur cunselr gathered us all tgether and she taught us a cheer that she said we wuld be ding every day fr the rest f the summer t instill camp spirit. And it went li

4、ke this: R-W-D-I-E, thats the way we spell rwdie. Rwdie, rwdie, lets get rwdie. Yeah. S I culdnt figure ut fr the life f me why we were suppsed t be s rwdy, r why we had t spell this wrd incrrectly. (Laughter) But I recited a cheer. I recited a cheer alng with everybdy else. I did my best. And I jus

5、t waited fr the time that I culd g ff and read my bks.But the first time that I tk my bk ut f my suitcase, the clest girl in the bunk came up t me and she asked me, Why are yu being s mellw? - mellw, f curse, being the eact ppsite f R-W-D-I-E. And then the secnd time I tried it, the cunselr came up

6、t me with a cncerned epressin n her face and she repeated the pint abut camp spirit and said we shuld all wrk very hard t be utging.And s I put my bks away, back in their suitcase, and I put them under my bed, and there they stayed fr the rest f the summer. And I felt kind f guilty abut this. I felt

7、 as if the bks needed me smehw, and they were calling ut t me and I was frsaking them. But I did frsake them and I didnt pen that suitcase again until I was back hme with my family at the end f the summer.Nw, I tell yu this stry abut summer camp. I culd have tld yu 50 thers just like it - all the ti

8、mes that I gt the message that smehw my quiet and intrverted style f being was nt necessarily the right way t g, that I shuld be trying t pass as mre f an etrvert. And I always sensed deep dwn that this was wrng and that intrverts were pretty ecellent just as they were. But fr years I denied this in

9、tuitin, and s I became a Wall Street lawyer, f all things, instead f the writer that I had always lnged t be - partly because I needed t prve t myself that I culd be bld and assertive t. And I was always ging ff t crwded bars when I really wuld have preferred t just have a nice dinner with friends.

10、And I made these self-negating chices s refleively, that I wasnt even aware that I was making them.Nw this is what many intrverts d, and its ur lss fr sure, but it is als ur clleagues lss and ur cmmunities lss. And at the risk f sunding grandise, it is the wrlds lss. Because when it cmes t creativit

11、y and t leadership, we need intrverts ding what they d best. A third t a half f the ppulatin are intrverts - a third t a half. S thats ne ut f every tw r three peple yu knw. S even if yure an etrvert yurself, Im talking abut yur cwrkers and yur spuses and yur children and the persn sitting net t yu

12、right nw - all f them subject t this bias that is pretty deep and real in ur sciety. We all internalize it frm a very early age withut even having a language fr what were ding.Nw t see the bias clearly yu need t understand what intrversin is. Its different frm being shy. Shyness is abut fear f scial

13、 judgment. Intrversin is mre abut, hw d yu respnd t stimulatin, including scial stimulatin. S etrverts really crave large amunts f stimulatin, whereas intrverts feel at their mst alive and their mst switched-n and their mst capable when theyre in quieter, mre lw-key envirnments. Nt all the time - th

14、ese things arent abslute - but a lt f the time. S the key then t maimizing ur talents is fr us all t put urselves in the zne f stimulatin that is right fr us.But nw heres where the bias cmes in. ur mst imprtant institutins, ur schls and ur wrkplaces, they are designed mstly fr etrverts and fr etrver

15、ts need fr lts f stimulatin. And als we have this belief system right nw that I call the new grupthink, which hlds that all creativity and all prductivity cmes frm a very ddly gregarius place.S if yu picture the typical classrm nwadays: When I was ging t schl, we sat in rws. We sat in rws f desks li

16、ke this, and we did mst f ur wrk usly. But nwadays, yur typical classrm has pds f desks - fur r five r si r seven kids all facing each ther. And kids are wrking in cuntless grup assignments. Even in subjects like math and creative writing, which yu think wuld depend n sl flights f thught, kids are n

17、w epected t act as cmmittee members. And fr the kids wh prefer t g ff by themselves r just t wrk alne, thse kids are seen as utliers ften r, wrse, as prblem cases. And the vast majrity f teachers reprts believing that the ideal student is an etrvert as ppsed t an intrvert, even thugh intrverts actua

18、lly get better grades and are mre knwledgeable, accrding t research. (Laughter)kay, same thing is true in ur wrkplaces. Nw, mst f us wrk in pen plan ffices, withut walls, where we are subject t the cnstant nise and gaze f ur cwrkers. And when it cmes t leadership, intrverts are rutinely passed ver f

19、r leadership psitins, even thugh intrverts tend t be very careful, much less likely t take utsize risks - which is smething we might all favr nwadays. And interesting research by Adam Grant at the Whartn Schl has fund that intrverted leaders ften deliver better utcmes than etrverts d, because when t

20、hey are managing practive emplyees, theyre much mre likely t let thse emplyees run with their ideas, whereas an etrvert can, quite unwittingly, get s ecited abut things that theyre putting their wn stamp n things, and ther peples ideas might nt as easily then bubble up t the surface.Nw in fact, sme

21、f ur transfrmative leaders in histry have been intrverts. Ill give yu sme eamples. Eleanr Rsevelt, Rsa Parks, Gandhi - all these pepled described themselves as quiet and sft-spken and even shy. And they all tk the sptlight, even thugh every bne in their bdies was telling them nt t. And this turns ut

22、 t have a special pwer all its wn, buld feel that these leaders were at the helm, nt because they enjyed directing thers and nt ut f the pleasure f being lked at; they were there because they had n chice, because they were driven t d what they thught was right.Nw I think at this pint its imprtant fr

23、 me t say that I actually lve etrverts. I always like t say sme f my best friends are etrverts, including my belved husband. And we all fall at different pints, f curse, alng the intrvert/etrvert spectrum. Even Carl Jung, the psychlgist wh first ppularized these terms, said that theres n such thing

24、as a pure intrvert r a pure etrvert. He said that such a man wuld be in a lunatic asylum, if he eisted at all. And sme peple fall smack in the middle f the intrvert/etrvert spectrum, and we call these peple ambiverts. And I ften think that they have the best f all wrlds. But many f us d recgnize urs

25、elves as ne type r the ther.And what Im saying is that culturally we need a much better balance. We need mre f a yin and yang between these tw types. This is especially imprtant when it cmes t creativity and t prductivity, because when psychlgists lk at the lives f the mst creative peple, what they

26、find are peple wh are very gd at echanging ideas and advancing ideas, but wh als have a serius streak f intrversin in them.And this is because slitude is a crucial ingredient ften t creativity. S Darwin, he tk lng walks alne in the wds and emphatically turned dwn dinner party invitatins. Thedr Geise

27、l, better knwn as Dr. Seuss, he dreamed up many f his amazing creatins in a lnely bell twer ffice that he had in the back f his huse in La Jlla, Califrnia. And he was actually afraid t meet the yung children wh read his bks fr fear that they were epecting him this kind f jlly Santa Claus-like figure

28、 and wuld be disappinted with his mre reserved persna. Steve Wzniak invented theputer sitting alne in his cubical in Hewlett-Packard where he was wrking at the time. And he says that he never wuld have becme such an epert in the first place had he nt been t intrverted t leave the huse when he was gr

29、wing up.Nw f curse, this des nt mean that we shuld all stp cllabrating - and case in pint, is Steve Wzniak famusly cming tgether with Steve Jbs tputer - but it des mean that slitude matters and that fr sme peple it is the air that they breathe. And in fact, we have knwn fr centuries abut the transce

30、ndent pwer f slitude. Its nly recently that weve strangely begun t frget it. If yu lk at mst f the wrlds majr religins, yu will find seekers - Mses, Jesus, Buddha, Muhammad - seekers wh are ging ff by themselves alne t the wilderness where they then have prfund epiphanies and revelatins that they th

31、en bring back t the rest f the cmmunity. S n wilderness, n revelatins.This is n surprise thugh if yu lk at the insights f cntemprary psychlgy. It turns ut that we cant even be in a grup f peple withut instinctively mirrring, mimicking their pinins. Even abut seemingly persnal and visceral things lik

32、e wh yure attracted t, yu will start aping the beliefs f the peple arund yu withut even realizing that thats what yure ding.And grups famusly fllw the pinins f the mst dminant r charismatic persn in the rm, even thugh theres zer crrelatin between being the best talker and having the best ideas - I m

33、ean zer. S . (Laughter) Yu might be fllwing the persn with the best ideas, but yu might nt. And d yu really want t leave it up t chance? Much better fr everybdy t g ff by themselves, generate their wn ideas freed frm the distrtins f grup dynamics, and then cme tgether as a team t talk them thrugh in

34、 a well-managed envirnment and take it frm there.Nw if all this is true, then why are we getting it s wrng? Why are we setting up ur schls this way and ur wrkplaces? And why are we making these intrverts feel s guilty abut wanting t just g ff by themselves sme f the time? ne answer lies deep in ur c

35、ultural histry. Western scieties, and in particular the U.S., have always favred the man f actin ver the man f cntemplatin and man f cntemplatin. But in Americas early days, we lived in what histrians call a culture f character, where we still, at that pint, valued peple fr their inner selves and th

36、eir mral rectitude. And if yu lk at the self-help bks frm this era, they all had titles with things like Character, the Grandest Thing in the Wrld. And they featured rle mdels like Abraham Lincln wh was praised fr being mdest and unassuming. Ralph Wald Emersn called him A man wh des nt ffend by supe

37、ririty.But then we hit the 20th century and we entered a new culture that histrians call the culture f persnality. What happened is we had evlved an agricultural ecnmy t a wrld f big business. And s suddenly peple are mving frm small twns t the cities. And instead f wrking alngside peple theyve knwn

38、 all their lives, nw they are having t prve themselves in a crwd f strangers. S, quite understandably, qualities like magnetism and chare t seem really imprtant. And sure enugh, the self-help bks change t meet these new needs and they start t have names like Hw t Win Friends and Influence Peple. And

39、 they feature as their rle mdels really great salesmen. S thats the wrld were living in tday. Thats ur cultural inheritance.Nw nne f this is t say that scial skills are unimprtant, and Im als nt calling fr the ablishing f teamwrk at all. The same religins wh send their sages untain tps als teach us

40、lve and trust. And the prblems that we are facing tday in fields like science and in ecnmics are s vast and s cmple that we are ging t need arming tgether t slve them wrking tgether. But I am saying that the mre freedm that we give intrverts t be themselves, the mre likely that they are t cme up wit

41、h their wn unique slutins t these prblems.S nw Id like t share with yu whats in my suitcase tday. Guess what? Bks. I have a suitcase full f bks. Heres Margaret Atwd, Cats Eye. Heres a nvel by Milan Kundera. And heres The Guide fr the Perpleed by Maimnides. But these are nt eactly my bks. I brught th

42、ese bks with me because they were written by my grandfathers favrite authrs.My grandfather was a rabbi and he was a widwer wh lived alne in a small apartment in Brklyn that was my favrite place in the wrld when I was grwing up, partly because it was filled with his very gentle, very curtly presence

43、and partly because it was filled with bks. I mean literally every table, every chair in this apartment had yielded its riginal functin t nw serve as a surface fr swaying stacks f bks. Just like the rest f my family, my grandfathers favrite thing t d in the whle wrld was t read.But he als lved his cn

44、gregatin, and yu culd feel this lve in the sermns that he gave every week fr the 62 years that he was a rabbi. He wuld takes the fruits f each weeks reading and he wuld weave these intricate tapestries f ancient and humanist thught. And peple wuld cme frm all ver t hear him speak.But heres the thing

45、 abut my grandfather. Underneath this ceremnial rle, hedest and really intrverted - s much s that when he delivered these sermns, he had truble making eye cntact with the very same cngregatin that he had been speaking t fr 62 years. And even away frm the pdium, when yu called him t say hell, he wuld

46、 ften end the cnversatin prematurely fr fear that he was taking up t much f yur time. But when he died at the age f 94, the plice had t clse dwn the streets f his neighbrhd t accmmdate the crwd f peple wh came ut t murn him. And s these days I try t learn frm my grandfathers eample in my wn way.S I

47、just published a bk abut intrversin, and it tk me abut seven years t write. And fr me, that seven years was like ttal bliss, because I was reading, I was writing, I was thinking, I was researching. It was my versin f my grandfathers hurs f the day alne in his library. But nw all f a sudden my jb is

48、very different, and my jb is t be ut here talking abut it, talking abut intrversin. (Laughter) And thats a lt harder fr me, because as hnred as I am t be here with all f yu right nw, this is nt my natural milieu.S I prepared fr mments like these as best I culd. I spent the last year practicing publi

49、c speaking every chance I culd get. And I call this my year f speaking dangerusly. (Laughter) And that actually helped a lt. But Ill tell yu, what helps even mre is my sense, my belief, my hpe that when it cmes t ur attitudes t intrversin and t quiet and t slitude, we truly are pised n the brink n dramatic change. I mean, we are. And s I am ging t leave yu nw with three calls fr actin fr thse wh share this visin.Number ne: Stp the