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1、http:/ Children Too Much Is Hurting ThemFromVOALearningEnglish,thisistheHealth&Lifestylereport.Helicopterparentingdescribesastyleofraisingchildrenwhereparentsareover-protectiveanddotoomuch.Thetermwasusedforthefirsttimeinthelate(nineteen)sixties.Itdescribesparentswhohoverovertheirkidsathomeandatt

2、heplaygroundlikeahelicopter.Today,moderntechnologyallowsthesehelicopterparentstohoverfromevenfaraway.Theycangivetheirchildrendirectionsatanymomentfromanywhere.Author Julie Lythcott-Haims wrote a book titledHow to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kids for Success.

3、 In her book, she gives readers a closer look at this parenting style. She also explains why parents should stop it. Julie Lythcott-Haims says she experienced the effects of helicopter parenting firsthand firsthand when she worked as dean of first year students at Stanford University. The incoming s

4、tudents, or freshmen, she says, were very smart and accomplished on paper. But many were unable to take care of themselves.They were turning to parents constantly for guidance, for They were turning to parents constantly for guidance, for problem solving, to have them make the choice about problem s

5、olving, to have them make the choice about something.something.Oftentimes, Lythcott-HaimsOftentimes, Lythcott-Haims had to remind those parents had to remind those parents that their kids were old enough to take care of themselves. that their kids were old enough to take care of themselves. However,

6、 one evening she discovered that she too might be However, one evening she discovered that she too might be a helicopter mom.a helicopter mom.I came home one day - my own kids were 8 and 10 at the I came home one day - my own kids were 8 and 10 at the time - and I leaned over at dinner and began cut

7、ting my time - and I leaned over at dinner and began cutting my 10-year-old sons meat. And I realized, Oh my goodness, 10-year-old sons meat. And I realized, Oh my goodness, Im over-helping my 10-year-old. He should be able to cut Im over-helping my 10-year-old. He should be able to cut his own meat

8、! Its my job to teach him. I havent done his own meat! Its my job to teach him. I havent done that. Im on track to being one of those parents. I that. Im on track to being one of those parents. I thats when I began to develop real empathy for parents thats when I began to develop real empathy for pa

9、rents and realized were over helping with the best and realized were over helping with the best of intentions.of intentions.Over-parenting,shesays,comesinthreetypes:1.Theover-protectiveparent.Over-protective.Parentswhothinktheworldisscaryandunsafeandunpredictable.Andtherefore,Imustprotectandprevent.

10、”2.Theover-directiveparent.“Secondtypeistheover-directivetype-theparentwhosays,IknowbestwhatleadstosuccessandyouwilldoasIsay.Youllstudythesetopics,youlldotheseactivitiesandyouwillbehighlyachievingatallofit.”3.Andthenthereistheconciergeparent.Theconciergeatahotelisthepersonwhotakescareofallyourneedsa

11、ndmakesyourstayasperfectascanbe.“Thethirdtypeistheconcierge-theparentwhojustwantstomakelifesmoother-fromwakingtheirkidup,tokeepingtrackoftheirdeadlines,tomakingsuretheyhaventforgottenanything,tohavingthosetoughconversationswiththeteachertooutrighthelpingwiththehomeworkormaybedoingthehomeworkfortheki

12、d. Lythcott-Haims warns this kind of parenting has many short-term wins but long-term costs that harm the child. She uses an area common to most children a playground. Lythcott-Haims suggests letting your child get a little hurt. If youre at the playground next to them, if they fall or slip, youre r

13、ight there to catch them and they do not suffer, you know, the bruised knee or whatever it might be. If youre helping with your kids homework, they are going to get better grade. Those are the short-term wins. The long-term cost is - if your kid doesnt learn how to manage their own body on a playgro

14、und, which is a lesson only learned by falling a few times - they dont learn the long-term lesson. If you do your childs homework, it will be perfect. That is what she calls the short-term win. The long-term cost is that your child may not feel capable. And they not become a persistent learner, mean

15、ing they will give up easily when faced with a difficult problem to solve.“Ifyourealwayshelpingwiththeirhomework,whatyoureeffectivelytellingthemis,Hey,kid,yourenotcapableofbeingafourthgrader.Dontworry.Imgoingtohelpwithyourhomework.Theybegintofeellesscapable.Theybeginveryreliantonparentstocorrectandp

16、erfecttheiracademicwork.Itsnotpreparingthemtobethepersistentlearnerswhowillbesuccessfulinlife.Fourwaystostopover-parentingSowhatcanparentsdoiftheywanttobreaktheover-parenting“helicopter”cycle?Lythcott-Haimsoffersfourwaystostophoveringoveryourchildren.Wehavetostopsayingwewhenwemeanoursonorourdaughter.Alltoooftenaparentwouldsayweareonthetravelsoccerteam.Well,no,yoursonisoryourdaughteris.”“Thenextthingiswehavetostoparguingwithalloftheadultsinourkidslives.Weneedtoteachourkidstoadvocateforthemselves.”“Thethirdthingiswemuststopdoingourkidshomework.”“Thefourth