課文-unit-5-love-and-marriage

1、2021/8/212021/8/222021/8/23New Words & Expressions2021/8/24Reading Questions2021/8/25Why does the author say “dating another woman” is the secret to keeping love alive in my relationship with my wife?Reading Questions2021/8/26SampleThe other woman the author dates is his mother. She is the one w

2、hom he loves deeply and the one loves him greatly. But under great pressure from work and life, the author tends to keep himself busy all the time. The author often complains about how quickly time flies. His schedule is so tight that he doesnt find much time to see his mother and learn to fully enj

3、oy everyday life. Fortunately, however, through the date with his mother, the author feels nice and relaxed, and he learns the importance of slowing down, which is the secret to keeping love alive between his wife and him.Reading Questions2021/8/27Text Structure Part One Dating another woman was the

4、 secret Ive discovered to keeping love alive between my wife and I. Part TwoI started dating my mother and we both got to understand each other better and love each other more. Part ThreeSpending time with my mother has taught me the importance of slowing down.(Para. 1):(Para.27):(Para. 8):2021/8/28

5、Text Understanding2021/8/29Text UnderstandingThat “Other Woman” in My LifeThat “Other Woman” in My LifePara. 1 Para. 2 Para. 3 Para. 4Para. 5 Para. 6Para. 7 Para. 82021/8/210 After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the secret (to keeping love alive) in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I start

6、ed dating another woman. Paragraph 12021/8/211 After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the secret (to keeping love alive )in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman. (Para.1, L.1)Sentence Study 1-1 keep love alive adj.“活潑; 有活力”, （感情，品質(zhì)）繼續(xù)存在的 做love的賓語補足語。the secret (to

7、keeping love alive )中的中的to 為為介詞，介詞， keeping love alive 是動名詞短語 解析：解析：2021/8/212v live、 alive、living都有都有“活的、有生命的活的、有生命的”意思，意思，與與dead意義相反。意義相反。 2） live通常只作前置通常只作前置定語定語，且一般用于動物，且一般用于動物 alive、living不僅可作不僅可作定語定語（alive只能置于名詞只能置于名詞后；后；living一般置于名詞前，也可置于名詞后），一般置于名詞前，也可置于名詞后），也可以作也可以作表語表語。 2021/8/213This is a

8、 live (=living) fish. (=This is a fish alive.) 這是一條活魚。（指動物，且作定語時，三者均可這是一條活魚。（指動物，且作定語時，三者均可用）用） Whos the greatest man alive (=living man)? 誰是當今最偉大的人物？（指人，不能用誰是當今最偉大的人物？（指人，不能用live） The fish is still alive (=living) 那條魚還活著。（指動物作表語時不能用那條魚還活著。（指動物作表語時不能用live）。）。2021/8/214只有l(wèi)iving前加the方可表示“活著的人”The livi

9、ng are more important to us than the dead. 活著的人對我們來說比死去的人更重要。living 活著的，尤指（現(xiàn)存的）仍在使用的living language現(xiàn)行的語言3) live現(xiàn)場直播的，實況轉(zhuǎn)播的(可做定語、表語)a live broadcast 現(xiàn)場廣播this show was live這個節(jié)目是實況轉(zhuǎn)播2021/8/215Sentence Study 1-2date n.日期, 日子，時期, 約會 vt.約會, 定日期date sb.= have a date with sb與某人約會I have a date with my girl-f

10、riend tonight. 我今晚我今晚和和女朋友有個約會。女朋友有個約會。date back追溯到；始于The town dates back to Roman times.這座城鎮(zhèn)建于古羅馬時代。* out of date 不再流行的; 過時的* up to date 現(xiàn)代的; 時新的2021/8/216Sentence Study 1-3經(jīng)歷經(jīng)歷2222年的婚姻，我發(fā)現(xiàn)如何同妻子佩吉保年的婚姻，我發(fā)現(xiàn)如何同妻子佩吉保持愛戀關(guān)系的秘密：去約會另一個女人。持愛戀關(guān)系的秘密：去約會另一個女人。譯文：譯文： After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered

11、the secret to keeping love alive in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman. (Para.1, L.1)2021/8/217QuestionsPara 1:Did my wife agree with my dating another woman?Yes. In fact it is my wife who encouraged me to date the other woman.2021/8/218The “other woman” my wife was

12、encouraging me to date is my mother, a 72-year-old widow who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago. Right after his death, I moved 2,500 miles away to California and started my own family and career. When I moved back near my hometown six years ago, I promised myself that I would spend m

13、ore time with Mom. But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much beyond family get-togethers and holidays. Paragraph 22021/8/219The “other woman”（ my wife was encouraging me to date） is my mother, a widow (who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago).

14、1、date sb. 與某人約會（=have a date with sb.)2、encourage sb. to do 鼓勵某人做某事3、現(xiàn)在完成時have/has done + since + 一般過去時4、my mother, a 72-year-old widow 同位語 72-year-old 基數(shù)詞-名詞單數(shù) =adj a three-leg table whom 2021/8/220 Right after his death, I moved 2 500 miles away to California and started my own family and career.

15、(Para.2, L.2) Sentence Study 2-1right: adv. immediately 立即，馬上* I must answer that phone, but Ill be right back. 我得去接電話，我得去接電話，馬上馬上就回來。就回來。就在父親去世后，我搬到了就在父親去世后，我搬到了25002500英里以外的英里以外的加利福尼亞，成家立業(yè)。加利福尼亞，成家立業(yè)。2021/8/221But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much bey

16、ond family get-togethers and holidays. 1. with the demands of = because of2. get around to (doing) sth 找出時間做某事找出時間做某事 I hope to get round to answering your request next week.我希望下星期能我希望下星期能抽出空來答復(fù)抽出空來答復(fù)你的要求。你的要求。3. Beyond prep.1）go （far）beyond(遠遠遠遠) 超出，超越超出，超越 be beyond sb. 為某人所不能理解為某人所不能理解 2） except除

17、除以外（一般用于含疑問或否定意義的以外（一般用于含疑問或否定意義的結(jié)構(gòu)中）結(jié)構(gòu)中） I will do nothing beyond what I am told to do. 除去指示我做的那部分工作，其他的我一概不干。除去指示我做的那部分工作，其他的我一概不干。2021/8/2224. get together（為社交或合作目的而）聚集，集（為社交或合作目的而）聚集，集合合 get-together n.(非正式的非正式的)聚會聚會, 聯(lián)歡會聯(lián)歡會, 會談會談gathering2021/8/223QuestionsPara 2:Did I spend much time with my m

18、other?No. My mother live alone 20 years ago, and I never get around to seeing her much because of the demand of my job and kids2021/8/224 She was surprised when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie. “Whats wrong?” she asked. My mother thinks anything （out of the o r d i

19、n a r y ） s i g n a l s b a d n e w s . “ I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “ Just the two of us.” “ Id like that a lot.” she replied. Paragraph 32021/8/225She was surprised when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie. “Whats wrong?” she aske

20、d. My mother thinks anything(out of the ordinary)signals bad news. “ I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “ Just the two of us.” “ Id like that a lot.” she replied.shouldreply=answerout of the ordinary不平常的, 非凡的2021/8/226v Ordinary， common, normal,general, averagev common其

21、反義詞為“rare”。普通的 尋常的 常見的-可以這樣理解：哪里都可以看到的 滿大街都是的 eg: its a common bag,and you can find it in every store 這包很普通 哪個商店都有賣的 v usual 通常的,平常的;慣常的 -可以這樣理解：昨天是這樣 前天是這樣 大前天也是這樣 這時就用usual 屢見不鮮的 。用usual修飾的東西可以 是很奇怪的或不可理解的 但是由于見得多了 所以見怪不怪 eg: its usual for us to see him crying naked. 對我們來說，他光著屁股大哭是很平常的事2021/8/227v

22、 ordinary: 通常的,平常的 -可以這樣理解：東西分3種，好的 一般的 差的 而ordinary 就是其中的那個“一般的” ，它可能不常見 它可能不尋常 但它是一般的 不是好的 不是壞的 只是大路貨 eg:The novel describes the way of life of the ordinary people there. 這部小說描寫那里的普通人的生活方式 v normal : 正常的,正規(guī)的,標準的 -可以這樣理解：這個就很好區(qū)分拉 正常的狀態(tài) 標準的 常態(tài) (人的精神,身體)正常發(fā)育的 eg:The doctor said the childs temperature

23、 was normal. 醫(yī)生說孩子體溫正常 2021/8/228vaverage 意為“平均的”“中等的,普通的,平常的” 例如: the average age 平均年齡 2021/8/229v generalvgeneral側(cè)重側(cè)重“普遍普遍”之意，表示在大多數(shù)人或物之意，表示在大多數(shù)人或物中流行并受到關(guān)注，不含有中流行并受到關(guān)注，不含有“地位低下地位低下”之意，之意，其反義詞為其反義詞為 specific。如。如v There is a general election in that country every three years.v 在那個國家每三年就有一次普選在那個國家每三年

24、就有一次普選 / 大選。大選。v I have got the general idea of what he said just now.v 我已明白了他剛才所說的大體意思。我已明白了他剛才所說的大體意思。2021/8/230New Wordssuggest （advise, propose)vt. 建議，提議建議，提議( that 主語主語 should do)I suggest that we should have a rest.vt.使想起使想起, 暗示暗示,表明表明* His cool response suggested that he didnt like the idea.

25、他反應(yīng)冷淡他反應(yīng)冷淡表明表明他并他并不喜歡不喜歡這個主意。這個主意。 【注意注意】 suggest 表示“建議”時后接從句要用虛擬語氣，而表示“暗示，表明”時則不用虛擬語氣。2021/8/231Sentence Study 4-1動詞suggest 后的賓語從句中要求用虛擬語氣結(jié)構(gòu)，用來表示建議。形式為（should）+ 動詞原形。因此，本句中suggest后為省略that的賓語從句,從句中g(shù)o前省略should，為虛擬式。解析：解析：4.She was surprised when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner a

26、nd a movie.(Para.3, L.12)我打電話給母親，建議我們倆外出一起吃飯、我打電話給母親，建議我們倆外出一起吃飯、看電影，她感到很驚訝?？措娪?，她感到很驚訝。2021/8/232Her expression suggested that she _angry,so I suggested that she _ a walk in the open air.A should be; took B should be; should takeC was; would be D was; should take2021/8/233Para 3:Why did my mother fe

27、el surprised when I called her?Because all those years I spend little time with my mother, the fact that I called her and suggested a date seemed something out of ordinary, and maybe signaled bad news. Questions2021/8/234 When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on.

28、 Her hair was curled, and she was smiling. “ I told my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed,” she said as she got into my car. “ They cant wait to hear about our evening.” Paragraph 42021/8/235New Words impress vt. 給給深刻的印象深刻的印象impress sb. (with sth.)：have a favorable

29、 effect on sb給予某人深刻印象給予某人深刻印象be impressed by at, with 被深深打動感動impress on sb. sth. 使某人了解某事的重要性，使某人了解某事的重要性，使使 銘記銘記 My father impress on me the importance of hard work. 我父親要我牢記努力工作的重要性。2021/8/236 When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled, and she

30、 was smiling. “ I told my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed,” she said as she got into my car. “ They cant wait to hear about our evening.”pull into (機動車輛）駛進某處機動車輛）駛進某處 hear about得悉得悉, 聽說聽說 with her coat on 獨立結(jié)構(gòu)（帶有自己邏輯主語的結(jié)構(gòu)）獨立結(jié)構(gòu)（帶有自己邏輯主語的結(jié)構(gòu)）With/without + 名名/代詞代詞+

31、（分詞、形容詞、副詞、不定式、介詞短語）（分詞、形容詞、副詞、不定式、介詞短語）Im teaching with the lights on. 我正在講課，燈亮著。我正在講課，燈亮著。Im teaching with the windows open. 我正在講課，窗戶開著。我正在講課，窗戶開著。Im teaching with my students talking.我正在講課，學(xué)生在說話。我正在講課，學(xué)生在說話。Paragraph 42021/8/237Para 4:What was my mothers feeling towards our date?She felt happy, e

32、xcited and looked forward to the date. Questions2021/8/238We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a neighborhood place where we could talk. Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. “ I used to be the menu reader when you were little,” she said. “Then its

33、time for you to relax and let me return the favor,” I said. We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. “Ill go out with you again,” my mother said as I dropped her off, “ But only if you let me buy dinner next time.” I agreed

34、. Paragraph 52021/8/239Sentence Study 5-2我們沒有去我們沒有去高檔高檔的餐館，只在附近找了一個的餐館，只在附近找了一個便于說話的地方。便于說話的地方。 We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a neighborhood place（ where we could talk）. (Para.5, L.1)2021/8/240Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. “ I used to

35、 be the menu reader when you were little,” she said. “Then its time for you to relax and let me return the favor,” I said.used to do 過去常常做某事return the favor 還(某人）人情2021/8/241We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. “Ill go

36、out with you again,” my mother said as I dropped her off, “ But only if you let me buy dinner next time.” I agreed. catch up on （使）掌握（最新消息）（使）掌握（最新消息）drop sb. off 讓某人下汽車讓某人下汽車 pick up 搭便車搭便車 擴展擴展drop behind 落后落后 drop by 順便訪問順便訪問 drop out 從比賽、俱樂部或?qū)W校退出從比賽、俱樂部或?qū)W校退出2021/8/242We had a nice talk over dinn

37、er，just catching up on each others lives. (Para 5, L.5-6)Sentence Study 7-1over 此處為介詞，表示“在做或從事的時候”，如： a chat over coffee.喝著喝著咖啡聊天咖啡聊天“catching up on each others lives.” 為現(xiàn)在分詞短語做伴隨狀語，表示同時進行的動作。解析：解析：我們邊吃邊談，談得很好我們邊吃邊談，談得很好, ,只是交談些彼此的只是交談些彼此的生活情況。生活情況。2021/8/243only ifonly if 中，only是中心詞,而if則只是用來連接從句，因此

38、，它表示“只有(才)；只有在的時候，唯一的條件是”的意思。對“條件”限制更嚴 ，增強主句語勢 。I will come home only if you come with me.= I will only come home if you come with me. 只有你跟我一起走，我才回家。只有你跟我一起走，我才回家。 only if =only.if，表示唯一的條件，但意思不變。only if 引導(dǎo)的狀語從句置于主句之前，主句要用倒裝語序Only if you come with me, will I come home.if only表達強烈的愿望或遺憾，用在虛擬語氣中，譯為“但愿”

39、、“要是該多好啊” If only I were a bird!2021/8/244Para 5:1. What does the phrase “return the favor” mean in this paragraph?2. Who will pay for the dinner next time?When I was little, my mother used to read the menu for me, but now she got something wrong with her eyes and couldnt see the menu clearly, so I

40、read the menu to her in return. My mother. Questions2021/8/245“How was your date?” my wife asked when I got home that evening. “ Nice.nicer than I thought it would be,” I said. She smiled her told-you-so smile. 同源賓語同源賓語 dream a wonderful dream 做美夢做美夢 live a happy life 過著幸福的生活過著幸福的生活 sleep a sound sl

41、eep熟睡，睡得極甜熟睡，睡得極甜 smile a happy smile幸福地笑了幸福地笑了 told-you-so預(yù)料之中的，早說過預(yù)料之中的，早說過(I have told you so)Paragraph 62021/8/246Para 6:Why did my wife smiled her told-you-so smile?Because she had expected that my dating with my mother would be very nice and helpful. Questions2021/8/247Mom and I go out for din

42、ner a couple of times a month. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory during World War II. I know how she met my father there. I cant get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history. We also talk about the future. Because of health problems, my mother wo

43、rries about the days ahead. “ I have so much living to do,” she told me once. “ I need to be there while my grandchildren grow up. I dont want to miss any of it.” Paragraph 72021/8/2481. couple n. 夫妻，一對，一雙a couple of 三兩個,幾個，一些(= several, some)a pair of ：一對2. ahead adv.Go ahead! 前進，繼續(xù)ahead of time 提前

44、 =in advance2021/8/249Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory during World War II. I know how she met my father there. I cant get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history.to work in a factory durin

45、g World War II was like what.(what 做介詞做介詞like的賓語，的賓語，what 應(yīng)放在句首）應(yīng)放在句首）cant get enough of sth 聽聽/用用/吃吃.不夠不夠I cant get enough of these stories.我對這些故事百聽不厭我對這些故事百聽不厭cannot. enough 無論怎樣無論怎樣.都不夠都不夠 e.g.I cannot thank you enough. 感恩不盡。感恩不盡。have enough of (對某人或某事對某人或某事)感到厭煩感到厭煩2021/8/250We also talk about t

46、he future. Because of health problems, my mother worries about the daysahead.“ I have so much living to do,” she toldme once. “ I need to be there while mygrandchildren grow up. I dont want to miss anyof it.”worry about擔憂擔憂, 煩惱煩惱living n.生計生計, 生存之道生存之道 earn/make ones living 謀生謀生He made a living by w

47、riting.他靠寫作謀生。他靠寫作謀生。2021/8/251Para 7:1. What did my mother and I talk about when we were dating?We talked about her life before I was born, it is a part of my history. We also talk about the future. Questions2021/8/252 I tend to fill my calendar to the brim as I struggle to fit family, career and f

48、riendships into my life. I often complain about how quickly time flies. Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down. tend to do 傾向于做傾向于做，有，有的趨勢的趨勢,易于做某事易于做某事Women tend to live longer than men.女人多比男人長壽。女人多比男人長壽。Paragraph 82021/8/253Sentence Study 9-3忙于應(yīng)付家庭生活、事業(yè)和朋友關(guān)系等種種忙于應(yīng)付家

49、庭生活、事業(yè)和朋友關(guān)系等種種事情，我的日程表總是排得滿滿的。事情，我的日程表總是排得滿滿的。I tend to fill my calendar to the brim as I struggle to fit family, career and friendships into my life.fill my calendar to the brim 把日程表排得滿滿的把日程表排得滿滿的fill . to the brim 把把.填滿填滿fit sth into抽空做抽空做,找到做某事的時間找到做某事的時間I had to fit ten appointments into one day

50、. 我要在一天里我要在一天里安排安排10個約會個約會2021/8/254I often complain about how quickly time flies.Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down.Sentence Study 10-1 slow down: 放慢速度,此處意為“減少活動/工作等”。 You must slow down your car. 你必須把車子你必須把車子開慢開慢。與母親共度時光，使我懂得了放慢生活節(jié)奏與母親共度時光，使我懂得了放慢生活節(jié)奏的重要。的重要。 20

51、21/8/255 Reading Comprehension Vocabulary2021/8/2561Directions: Choose the best answer for each of the following items.1) The author started dating his mother because _.A. he felt sorry for his mother B. his mother was lonelyC. his wife encouraged him to do soD. he had more free time 2) When the aut

52、hor suggested a date to his mother, his mother_.v accepted it immediately v was surprisedv was worriedD. was curious Reading ComprehensionCB2021/8/2573) The lines “She was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled, and she was smiling.”（Para.4, L.12）suggests the following EXCEPT that

53、_. A. his mother looked forward to the date B. his mother was excited C. his mother was happy D. his mother was nervous 4) According to this passage, which of the following is NOT true? A. The author had been in California for 14 years. B. The author and his mother had nice talks over dinners. C. Th

54、e author and his mother took turns paying dinners. D. The author and his mother were hopeful about their future. Reading ComprehensionDD2021/8/2585) The last line of the passage implies that_. A. the author has learned to relax more B. the author has learned to keep love alive between his wife and h

55、im C. the author has learned to do things slowly D. the author has learned to drive at a low speed 2. Directions: Read through the text and complete the following statements.vWhat is the secret the author has discovered to keeping love alive between his wife and him? The secret is _Reading Comprehen

56、sionA dating another woman. 2021/8/259vWhy didnt the author see his mother much in the past six years? Because _took up much of his time. vWhy was his mother surprised when her son suggested a dinner and a movie? Because she thought his suggestion _ _vWhat did the mother and her son talk about? They

57、 talked about_ vWhat did the author learn from his mother? He learned the importance of _ Reading Comprehension both his job and his three kidsthe ordinary / unusual and a signal of bad news. each others lives and also the future.slowing down. was something out of2021/8/260Summary of the TextDirecti

58、on: Fill in the blanks according to what your have just heard.After 22 years of marriage, I found the 1) _ to keeping love alive in my marriage, that is, I start 2) _ another woman. The “other woman” is my mother, a 72-year-old 3) _ who has lived alone for 20 years. Because of the 4) _ of my job and

59、 family, I didnt find much time to see my mother. So she was 5) _ when I suggested a date with her. We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a 6) _ place where we could talk. I read the 7) _ to her, and we had a nice talk over dinner. Reading Comprehensionsecret datingwidowdemandssurprisedneighborhoodmenu20

60、21/8/261Summary of the TextBoth of us feel wonderful about our date, and from then on we go out for dinner 8) _ times a month. I am very interested in the stories about her past life; we also talk about the future. I always fill my 9) _ to the brim and often complain about how quickly time flies. While