Differences in expressing love.doc

Differences in expressing loveLove is such a beautiful thing, however, it need to be expressed , whether directly or indirectly,so that others can perceive it. The way how people express love varies greetly. It can be influenced by many things, such as regional disparity, culture differences, personality distinction and so on. Now I want to focus on the differences in expressing love between southerners and northerners in our country, and try to explain some reasons that lead to these differences.First, to loversNortherners are usually described as direct and open, and they deal with their love affairs in a more direct and simple way, compared with southerners. When they encounter the one they love, especially for males, they are more likely to give a self-revealing directly, maybe together with some roses or presents. And even for girls form the northern areas, they are more directly and bold on their love affairs, more easier to accept the profess of male who she admired, or pursue the one she loved. But directly as they are, they may ignore some details when getting along with each other,or there may be some lack of romance.As for southerners, they chose to be more implicative when confront with love. They express themselves with twists and turns. They are not fond of expressing their feelings directly, expecially for girls, who are more impolicative and reserved ,they expect males to be positive. Generally speaking, whether male or female in southern behaves more considerately to lovers, which is in agreement with their delicate characters. Second, to friends As for friends, the northerners are more bold and unconstrained to friends. They often show their good feeling to their friends by treating meals or playing together. Their character seems like the brightly distinct four seasons in north.They may have Great sorrow or great joy frequently, and feelings are showed on their face clearly. When someone is considered as their friend, they may treat him brotherly, rather frank and loyal. But once the friendship break up, intense contradiction maybe produced, they may not run over this because of previous friendship. While people in south is different, their attitude toward friends is more implicative and “polite”, whoever they are getting along with, they tend to hehave gentlely and peaceful. Their emotions toward friends are not as obvious as notherners.Third, parents to children or children to parents As we all know, love between parents and children are very deep no matter in which country.In China,most parents dont expressing their love to children directly, or verbally, especially when their children grow older. In this aspect, differences between southerners and northerners are few. I think this mainly because chinese culture is deeply infulenced by Confucian culture, which advocate reservation and hidding feeings. So most parents show their love to children in a unconspicuous way, it is more revealed in the caring of daily life. Similarly, influenced by their parents, children also not accustomed to express their feelings to parents directly.While, gentle, sometimes can let a person think of their personality line fuzzy not clear. Joint treat people polite, considerate courtesy, but will rationally keep a certain distance, involuntary commitment to what, and seldom gets excited up The people of the north character like her as the four seasons is distinct., light up, is a friend cant mention elder brothers personal ty, the wine lead three cruise grandiloquence, But may also be a language not roughhouse, no one. So in the streets and lanes often encounter in public noisy fight things確實是這樣的，我認(rèn)為大部分北方人不會像南方人那樣想太多，他們都比較簡單，所以最好有什么事不要憋在心里，跟他們相處時，一定要敞開心扉，他們不會猜測，所以可能沒什么情趣。北方游牧民族為主，常年依草依水而居，不喜農(nóng)耕，大吃肉類，騎馬善射，因而豪放。南方自黃河流域古文明輻射開來，加快了農(nóng)業(yè)商業(yè)的發(fā)展，尤其是買賣的興起完全改變了世人原有的性格，變得細(xì)致，不再粗枝大葉，變得精明，不再不拘小節(jié)。尤其是待頗多文人思想的出現(xiàn)，時常琴棋書畫，陶冶情操，追求文章的華麗，書法的精妙，讓人的性子懂得欣賞起來，慢慢地拐彎抹角起來。北方人的性格就像她的四季一樣比較鮮明。大喜大悲，喜形于色，是朋友的時候可以哥們義氣兩肋插刀，酒過三巡豪言壯語；但也可能一語不和大打出手，六親不認(rèn)。所以在北方的街頭巷尾常常會遇到當(dāng)眾吵鬧打架的事情。而南方人的性格卻比較含蓄，溫和，有時會讓人覺得他們個性的線條模糊不清晰。接人待物文雅、禮數(shù)周全，但會理智地保持一定的距離，不隨意地承諾什么，也很少激動起來，所以在南方的飯館和街上，到處都是一片安寧祥和的景象，如果碰到一幫面紅耳赤的家伙，那一定是從北方來得。就連說話都是這樣，北方人字正腔圓，有人稱咬牙