TED演講：建議我們說出感謝(中英對照)

1、.Hi. I m here to talk to you about the importance嗨 我在這里要和大家談?wù)勏騽e人表of praise, admiration and thank you, and having it達(dá)贊美 欽佩和謝意的重要性并使be specific and genuine.它們聽來真誠具體And the way I got interestedin this was, I noticed之所以我對此感興趣是因?yàn)槲覐奈襥n myself, when I was growing up, and until about自己的成長中注意到幾年前 當(dāng)我a few yea

2、rs ago, that I would want to say thank you想要對某個(gè)人說聲謝謝時(shí)當(dāng)我想要to someone,I would want to praise them, I would want贊美他們時(shí)當(dāng)我想接受他們對我的to take in theirpraise of me and I d juststop it.贊揚(yáng)時(shí) 我卻沒有說出口And I asked myself, why?我問我自己這是為什么I felt shy, I felt embarrassed.我感到害羞我感到尷尬And then my question became, am I the onl

3、y one who接著我產(chǎn)生了一個(gè)問題does this?So, I decided to investigate.難道我是唯一一個(gè)這么做的人嗎I m fortunateenough to work in therehab facility,so I get to see people who are facinglifeand death所以我決定做些探究with addiction.And sometimes it comes down to something as simple我非常幸運(yùn)的在一家康復(fù)中心工作as, their core wound is their father die

4、d without所以我可以看到那些因?yàn)樯习a而面ever saying he s proud of them.臨生與死的人But then, theyhear from allthe familyand friends有時(shí)候這一切可以非常簡單地歸結(jié)that the fathertold everybody esle thathe was proud為 他們最核心的創(chuàng)傷來自于他們父of him, but he never told the son.親到死都未說過他為他們而自豪It s because he didn t know that his son needed因?yàn)樗恢浪膬鹤有枰牭?/p>

5、這to hear it.一切So my question is, why don t we ask for thethings因此我的問題是為什么我們不索求that we need?我們需要的東西呢I know a gentleman, married for 25 years, who s我認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)結(jié)婚25 年的男士渴望聽longing to hear his wife say,“ Thank you for being到他妻子說感謝你為這個(gè)家在外賺the breadwinner, so I can stay homewiththekids ，” 錢 這樣我才能在家陪伴著孩子但but won

6、 t ask.他從來不去問I know a woman who s good at this.我認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)精于此道的女士She, once a week, meets with her husband and says,每周一次 她見到丈夫后會(huì)說我真“I d really like you to thank me for all these的希望你為我對這個(gè)家和孩子們的things I did in the house and with the kids.”付出的努力而感謝我And he goes ，“ Oh, this is great, this is great.”他會(huì)應(yīng)和到哦 真是太棒了

7、And praise really does have to be genuine, but she贊揚(yáng)別人一定要真誠但她對贊美承takes responsibility for that.擔(dān)了責(zé)任And a friend of mine, April, who Ive had since一個(gè)從我上幼兒園就一直是朋友的kindergarten, she thanks her children for doing叫 April 的人 她會(huì)感謝她的孩子們their chores.做了家務(wù)And she said, “Whywouldn tI thank it,even though她說 為什么我不

8、表示感謝呢即使they re supposed to do it?”他們本來就要做那些事情So, the question is, why was I blocking it?因此我的問題是為什么我不說呢Why were other people blocking it?為什么其他人不說呢;.Why can I say, “I ll take my steak medium rare, I need size six shoes，” but I won t say, “Would you praise me this way? ”And it s because I m giving you

9、critical data about me.I m telling you where Im insecure.I m telling you where I need your help.And I m treatingyou, my inner circle,likeyourethe enemy.Because what can you do with that data?You could neglect me.You could abuse it.Or you could actually meet my need.And I took my bike into the bike s

10、tore- I love this- same bike, and they d do something called“truing ”the wheels.The guy said,“ You know, when you true the wheels,it s going to make the bike so much better.”I get the same bike bake, and they ve taken all the little warps out of those same wheels I ve had for two and a half years, a

11、nd my bike is like new. So, I m going to challenge all of you.I want you to true your wheels ：be honest about the praise that you need to hear.What do you need to hear? Go home to your wife-go ask her, what does she need?Go home to your husband-what does he need?Go home and ask those questions, and

12、then help the people around you.And it s simple.And why should we care about this? We talk about world peace.Howcan we have world peace with differentcultures,different languages?I thinkitstartshousehold by household,under thesame roof.So, let s make it right in our own backyard.And I want to thank

13、all of you in the audience for being great husbands, great mothers,friends, daughters, sons.And maybe somebodys never said that to you, but youve done really, really good job.And thank you for being here, just showing up and為什么我能說 我要一塊中等厚度的牛排 我需要 6 號尺寸的鞋子 但我卻不能說 你可以贊揚(yáng)我嗎因?yàn)檫@會(huì)使我把我的重要信息與你分享會(huì)讓我告訴了你我內(nèi)心的不安會(huì)讓你認(rèn)為我需要你的幫助雖然你是我最貼心的人 我卻把你當(dāng)作是敵人你會(huì)用我托付給你的重要信息做些什么呢你可以忽視我你可以濫用它或者你可以滿足我的要求我把我的自行車拿到車行 我喜歡這么做 同樣的自行車 他們會(huì)對車輪做整形那里的人說 當(dāng)你對車輪做整形時(shí)它會(huì)使自行車變成更好我把這輛自行車拿回來 他們把有小小彎曲的鐵絲從輪子上拿走 這輛車我用了 2 年半 現(xiàn)在還像新的一樣所以我要問在場的所有人我希望你們把你們的車輪整形一下真誠面對你們想聽到的贊美你們想聽到什么呢 回家問問你們的妻子 她想聽到什么回家問問你們的丈夫 他想聽到什么回家問問這些問題 并幫助身邊的人實(shí)