關(guān)于英語勵志演講稿

1、關(guān)于英語勵志演講稿When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychtherapy client. I was a Ph.D. student in clinical psychlgy at Berkeley. She was a 26-year-ld wman named Ale. Nw Ale walked int her first sessin wearing jeans and a big sluchy tp, and she drpped nt the cuch in my ffice and kicked ff her flats an

2、d tld me she was there t talk abut guy prblems. Nw when I heard this, I was s relieved. My classmate gt an arsnist fr her first client. (Laughter) And I gt a twentysmething wh wanted t talk abut bys. This I thught I culd handle.But I didnt handle it. With the funny stries that Ale wuld bring t sessi

3、n, it was easy fr me just t nd my head while we kicked the can dwn the rad. Thirtys the new 20, Ale wuld say, and as far as I culd tell, she was right. Wrk happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later. Twentysmethings like Ale and I had nthing but time.But

4、befre lng, my supervisr pushed me t push Ale abut her lve life. I pushed back.I said, Sure, shes dating dwn, shes sleeping with a knucklehead, but its nt like shes ging t marry the guy.And then my supervisr said, Nt yet, but she might marry the net ne. Besides, the best time t wrk n Ales marriage is

5、 befre she has ne.Thats what psychlgists call an Aha! mment. That was the mment I realized, 30 is nt the new 20. Yes, peple settle dwn later than they used t, but that didnt make Ales 20s a develpmental dwntime. That made Ales 20s a develpmental sweet spt, and we were sitting there blwing it. That w

6、as when I realized that this srt f benign neglect was a real prblem, and it had real cnsequences, nt just fr Ale and her lve life but fr the careers and the families and the futures f twentysmethings everywhere.There are 50 millin twentysmethings in the United States right nw. Were talking abut 15 p

7、ercent f the ppulatin, r 100 percent if yu cnsider that n nes getting thrugh adulthd withut ging thrugh their 20s first.Raise yur hand if yure in yur 20s. I really want t see sme twentysmethings here. h, yay! Yalls awesme. If yu wrk with twentysmethings, yu lve a twentysmething, yure lsing sleep ver

8、 twentysmethings, I want t see kay. Awesme, twentysmethings really matter.S I specialize in twentysmethings because I believe that every single ne f thse 50 millin twentysmethings deserves t knw what psychlgists, scilgists, neurlgists and fertility specialists already knw: that claiming yur 20s is n

9、e f the simplest, yet mst transfrmative, things yu can d fr wrk, fr lve, fr yur happiness, maybe even fr the wrld.This is nt my pinin. These are the facts. We knw that 80 percent f lifes mst defining mments take place by age 35. That means that eight ut f 10 f the decisins and eperiences and Aha! mm

10、ents that make yur life what it is will have happened by yur mid-30s. Peple wh are ver 40, dnt panic. This crwd is ging t be fine, I think. We knw that the first 10 years f a career has an epnential impact n hw much mney yure ging t earn. We knw that mre than half f Americans are married r are livin

11、g with r dating their future partner by 30. We knw that the brain caps ff its secnd and last grwth spurt in yur 20s as it rewires itself fr adulthd, which means that whatever it is yu want t change abut yurself, nw is the time t change it. We knw that persnality changes mre during yur 20s than at an

12、y ther time in life, and we knw that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35. S yur 20s are the time t educate yurself abut yur bdy and yur ptins.S when we think abut child develpment, we all knw that the first five years are a critical perid fr language and attachment i

13、n the brain. Its a time when yur rdinary, day-t-day life has an inrdinate impact n wh yu will becme. But what we hear less abut is that theres such a thing as adult develpment, and ur 20s are that critical perid f adult develpment.But this isnt what twentysmethings are hearing. Newspapers talk abut

14、the changing timetable f adulthd. Researchers call the 20s an etended adlescence. Jurnalists cin silly nicknames fr twentysmethings like twiters and kidults. Its true. As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade f adulthd.Lenard Bernstein said that t achieve great things,

15、yu need a plan and nt quite enugh time. Isnt that true? S what d yu think happens when yu pat a twentysmething n the head and yu say, Yu have 10 etra years t start yur life? Nthing happens. Yu have rbbed that persn f his urgency and ambitin, and abslutely nthing happens.And then every day, smart, in

16、teresting twentysmethings like yu r like yur sns and daughters cme int my ffice and say things like this: I knw my byfriends n gd fr me, but this relatinship desnt cunt. Im just killing time. r they say, Everybdy says as lng as I get started n a career by the time Im 30, Ill be fine.But then it star

17、ts t sund like this: My 20s are almst ver, and I have nthing t shw fr myself. I had a better reacute;sumeacute; the day after I graduated frm cllege.And then it starts t sund like this: Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs. Everybdy was running arund and having fun, but then smetime arund 30 it

18、was like the music turned ff and everybdy started sitting dwn. I didnt want t be the nly ne left standing up, s smetimes I think I married my husband because he was the clsest chair t me at 30.Where are the twentysmethings here? D nt d that.kay, nw that sunds a little flip, but make n mistake, the s

19、takes are very high. When a lt has been pushed t yur 30s, there is enrmus thirtysmething pressure t jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have tw r three kids in a much shrter perid f time. Many f these things are incmpatible, and as research is just starting t shw, simply harder and mre

20、 stressful t d all at nce in ur 30s.The pst-millennial midlife crisis isnt buying a red sprts car. Its realizing yu cant have that career yu nw want. Its realizing yu cant have that child yu nw want, r yu cant give yur child a sibling. T many thirtysmethings and frtysmethings lk at themselves, and a

21、t me, sitting acrss the rm, and say abut their 20s, What was I ding? What was I thinking?I want t change what twentysmethings are ding and thinking.Heres a stry abut hw that can g. Its a stry abut a wman named Emma. At 25, Emma came t my ffice because she was, in her wrds, having an identity crisis.

22、 She said she thught she might like t wrk in art r entertainment, but she hadnt decided yet, s shed spent the last few years waiting tables instead. Because it was cheaper, she lived with a byfriend wh displayed his temper mre than his ambitin. And as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been ev

23、en harder. She ften cried in ur sessins, but then wuld cllect herself by saying, Yu cant pick yur family, but yu can pick yur friends.Well ne day, Emma cmes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sbbed fr mst f the hur. Shed just bught a new address bk, and shed spent the mrning filling in he

24、r many cntacts, but then shed been left staring at that empty blank that cmes after the wrds In case f emergency, please call . . She was nearly hysterical when she lked at me and said, Whs ging t be there fr me if I get in a car wreck? Whs ging t take care f me if I have cancer?Nw in that mment, it

25、 tk everything I had nt t say, I will. But what Emma needed wasnt sme therapist wh really, really cared. Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance. I had learned t much since I first wrked with Ale t just sit there while Emmas defining decade went paver the net weeks and mnths, I tld

26、 Emma three things that every twentysmething, male r female, deserves t hear.First, I tld Emma t frget abut having an identity crisis and get sme identity capital. By get identity capital, I mean d smething that adds value t wh yu are. D smething thats an investment in wh yu might want t be net. I d

27、idnt knw the future f Emmas career, and n ne knws the future f wrk, but I d knw this: Identity capital begets identity capital. S nw is the time fr that crss-cuntry jb, that internship, that startup yu want t try. Im nt discunting twentysmething eplratin here, but I am discunting eplratin thats nt s

28、uppsed t cunt, which, by the way, is nt eplratin. Thats prcrastinatin. I tld Emma t eplre wrk and make it cunt.Secnd, I tld Emma that the urban tribe is verrated. Best friends are great fr giving rides t the airprt, but twentysmethings wh huddle tgether with like-minded peers limit wh they knw, what

29、 they knw, hw they think, hw they speak, and where they wrk. That new piece f capital, that new persn t date almst always cmes frm utside the inner circle. New things cme frm what are called ur weak ties, ur friends f friends f friends. S yes, half f twentysmethings are un- r under-emplyed. But half

30、 arent, and weak ties are hw yu get yurself int that grup. Half f new jbs are never psted, s reaching ut t yur neighbrs bss is hw yu get that un-psted jb. Its nt cheating. Its the science f hw infrmatin spreads.Last but nt least, Emma believed that yu cant pick yur family, but yu can pick yur friend

31、s. Nw this was true fr her grwing up, but as a twentysmething, sn Emma wuld pick her family when she partnered with smene and created a family f her wn. I tld Emma the time t start picking yur family is nw. Nw yu may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time t settle dwn than 20, r even 25, and

32、I agree with yu. But grabbing whever yure living with r sleeping with when everyne n Facebk starts walking dwn the aisle is nt prgress. The best time t wrk n yur marriage is befre yu have ne, and that means being as intentinal with lve as yu are with wrk. Picking yur famnsciusly chsing wh and what yu want rather than just making it wrk r killing time with whever happens t be chsing yu.S what happened t Emma? Well, we went thrugh that address bk, and she fund an ld rmmates cusin wh wrked at an art museum in anther state. That weak tie helped her get a jb there. That jb ffer gave her t