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1、婚姻治療工作坊The Art and Science of Marriage Counseling ChinaAugust, 2005臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D., CGPClinical PsychologistNorthwestern UniversityWei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Overview 總覽Why Theory and Empirical R

2、esearch? 為什么需要理論和實證研究？Designer vs. Technician 設計師 vs.技師“If you truly understand, you will know what to do”-Bowen “倘若你真正地了解了，那么你就會知道該做什么。”-Bowen Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Predictors of Divorce(Markman, et al., 2001; Wolfinger, N. 2005; Seattle Times)Static Factors 靜態(tài)因素

3、Personality: Neuroticism 人格Parental Divorce 父母離婚Cohabitation History 同居歷史Previous Divorce 前次的離婚Having child before Marriage 未婚生子Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Predictors of DivorceHaving children from a previous marriage 帶著前次婚姻中所生的兒女Religious/Racial Differences 宗教信仰或種族上的差異

4、Marrying at a very young age (e.g. 18) 太早結婚（如 5:1 三對規(guī)約型夫婦在此項上的比率均大于5:1Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Current Research Findings目前的研究發(fā)現(xiàn)Regulated Couples 規(guī)約型夫婦Volatile: Lots of persuade attempts right from the beginning, passionate, lots of fights. 烈火型夫婦: 在一開始的時候做過很多說服對方的嘗試，很

5、有激情，也有很多的爭斗。Validate: Moderate persuade attempts. We-ness, friendship, less romantic. 肯定型夫婦: 溫和地勸說，從“我們”的角度考慮問題, 友誼, 比較不羅曼蒂克。Avoiders: Comfortable and Not hurt by their style of interaction. 回避型夫婦: 不會被他們互動的方式傷害。Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Current Research Findings目前的研究發(fā)

6、現(xiàn)Unregulated Couples (0.8:1) 無規(guī)約型夫婦(0.8:1)DPA 彌散的生理反應Hostile: 4 horsemen 敵意的: 啟示錄4騎士Hostile-Detached: Much more Contempt, Defensiveness and Stone-Walling. 傳遞敵意: 更多的輕視, 防御和筑墻。 Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Treatment Recommendations治療建議Behavioral Change + Insights 行為改變+領悟/洞

7、察Integrative, Multi-modal, Psychobiosocial 整合的、多重模式、心理-生物-社會的Change + Acceptance 改變+接納Empathize Pain (PA) + Focus on Strengths (Solution Oriented) 同感痛苦+注意長處（問題解決取向）Attachment focus 注重依附關係Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Treatment Recommendations治療建議Flexible hour (e.g. 2 hr 2

8、x 1st week, then gradually reduce) 彈性的時間 (比如，第一周兩次，每次兩個小時，然后逐漸減少)State dependent learning (practice S-L in emo aroused state, the more Ct can learn from Ts modeling and do it themselves the better) 狀態(tài)學習 (在情緒狀態(tài)中操練談話者和傾聽者的角色, 來訪者能從治療師的示范中學得越多越好)Longer term 長期Booster sessions 跟進階段Group support 團體的支持Wei

9、-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Seven Levels of Healing醫(yī)治的七個層次 (從Pinsof 和Satir 的作品中整合出來的）Behavioral/Environmental 行為的/環(huán)境的Physiological/Biological 生理的/生物學的Thoughts/Cognition/Feelings 思想/認知/情感Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Seven Levels of Healing醫(yī)治的七個層

10、次Core Beliefs/Meta Rules 核心信念Family of Origin 原生家庭Object Relations 客體關系Self/Spiritual 自我/靈性Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Compassionate Communication溫情溝通Problem Discussions (Empathy) Lead to Effective Problem Solving 討論問題 (同理心) 會引向有效地解決問題When Feeling Angry, Immediately Ask

11、: “What do I need right now?” 當感到憤怒的時候，立刻問自己：“我現(xiàn)在需要什么?”Compassionate Communication Integrated: Relationship Enhancement; Awareness Wheel; PREP; Imago; Non-Violent Communication, etc. 溫情溝通包括：增進彼此的關系;意識輪; PREP;意象; 非暴力的溝通，等等Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Speaker Role 說話者之規(guī)則“I

12、s it a good time to talk? Then Express ONE “Negative Withhold” or Frustration 找到雙方同意的時機，然後表達一個“被抑制的負面情緒”或挫敗感Dont Mind Read, Dont Ask Listener Questions 不要猜測別人的想法，也不要向聽者提問“Deposit” (Appreciate your partner) First, then Use The Following Enhanced “I Message” Steps to Communicate Your Inner Emotional W

13、orld: 先向配偶 “存款”，然後用下面的“我”句子來傳達你內(nèi)在的情緒世界:When (Describe Situation: Observation, Sensing Data) 當 的時候(描述一個情景:你觀察或感覺到的情況）2.I Feel (Share Feeling Data) 我覺得 (分享你的感受)3. Because I Think (Your Interpretation) 因為我的想法或解釋是 4. I Need (Describe Needs) 我需要 (描述你的需要)Thank you for Trying to Understand 謝謝你為了解我所做的努力Wei-

14、Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Listener Role傾聽者的練習Dont rebut, Listen to Understand, Paraphrase What You Hear 不要反駁。傾聽并試圖理解，用自己的語言講出你所聽到的信息。At the end of paraphrasing, Listener ask “How many percent did I get your meanings right?” 講完之后問對方，“我對你的話理解對了多少？” If less than 90%, ask the

15、 Speaker to clarify, Listener keep paraphrasing until the Speaker feels 90% satisfied). 如果少于 90%，讓說話者澄清，然后再講述一遍，直到說話者感到達到90滿意為止。Speaker Thank Listener and Switch the Speaker-Listener Role. 說話者感謝傾聽者，然后兩人對換角色。Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士Intentionally strengthening friends

16、hip.刻意增進夫妻之間的友情Deposit or Withdraw. 存款或提款Give what you want vs. what I want from you. 投其所好或給己所要Love Rituals and Pearl Moments. 恩情儀式與珍珠時刻Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士傾聽就是愛，了解中有醫(yī)治Listening is Loving, Empathy is Healing. (Wei-Jen Huang黃維仁) Wei-Jen Huang, Ph.D. CGP Clinical Psychologist 臨床心理學家黃維仁博士黃維仁博士婚姻治療實例請向中國中央電視臺心理訪談節(jié)目編導朱瑪女士詢問播出時間。電話 010-5889-1098Dr. Wei-Jen Huang